Premarital relationship

Q: I am 26 years old women, I am from malaysia. Im in a relationship with a guy from india. we decided to get married soon.. but i faced lot of problem from my family especially from my dad. he is not allowing me to get married to the guy because to him he is not up to my dad standard, he is coming from 3rd class country as compared to malaysia n he will not be able to take care of me like how my dad did...

My dad said he feel very ashamed because i want to get married to a foreigner.. besides that the guy is not filthy rich... i tried to make him understand by telling the way of his thinking is wrong... we shouldnt said those stuff, all of us are equal in the eyes of Allah... he said i am so desperate... im so much sad on how he is thinking... im trying to make everythng gets better...

Now everyone in my family isolating me... they said i am rude because i talked to my dad like that... i just told him the truth.. that his thinking is wrong... n i told him if Allah put him to be my husband u cant do anythng...then he told me...that will never happen when he is still alive... i am so much depressed at home...

I am old enough to get married but they arent letting me...proudly the told that i will be so proud if u didnt get married at all... i dont have desire is it? Allah created everyone in pairs... in fact my dad originates from india...his parent are from india only he was born and brought up in malaysia. when i asked him you are from there... y are u against it so bad.. he said he will slap me if i said that once more. i am really sad regarding my parent behavior especially my dad... what can i do for this

A: It is wrong to get involved into a premarital relationship. However, not marrying for the reasons you have explained and delaying the marriage when there is a need is also equally wrong.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

 

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)