Premarital relationship
Q: I love a guy and he even loves me. And our family knows eachother from a long time. We hadn't been involved in any haram actions. We wanted to begin with halal relationship. So he asked at his home about marrying me. But his family members denied as saying we don't like her. He is an orphan, he has a brother, sister, sister in law, brother in law, all of them refused. He tried alot. So we have done istekhara, still it's not overworking and his family said that if you marry her, then do not speak with us and there is lot of emotional blackmail. So he said he loves his family alot and as he doesn't have parents they are my world and he said no.
Meanwhile I got a rishta and that rishta is going smoothly without any hurdles. And my parents all others are happy except me. And the process has almost reached the end. The boy wants me to get married within 10 days. They are in a hurry and my parents too are in a hurry.
I would like to ask if the response of the first boy negative because since this rishta has been sent, everything is going smoothly and almost everything is final now. Can I still pray to Allah to make me the first boys life partner since I love him alot.
A: Make sincere tawba for getting in this haraam relationship and make a firm resolve that you will not repeat the sin in the future. Listen to your parents and break off all ties with the boy. If you cannot marry him, then it is pointless that you go on thinking about marring him thereby bringing pain and agony to yourself. Similarly, thinking about him is not permissible. May Allah Tala bless you with a pious and suitable spouse.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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