Premarital relationship

Q: Me and my classmate both like each other and we want to get married. I have read somewhere on the internet that talking to a na-mehram other than there is a need to talk, is not allowed in Islam. We used to talk a lot during university time but after passing university that boy got a job from the mercy of Allah, and now we don't talk much because he doesn't get time to talk to me much, but still I have a guilt that Islam doesn't allow na-mehrams to talk to eachother other than need. I don't want to disobey Allah, but I get worried about if he is fine, if he arrived at home or not etc. What should I do? He cannot send a proposal to my home right now, it will take 2 years approximately. Can I just ask him, if he is ok? If he arrived at home? Wake him up for fajar through missed call? NO other chat just these questions.

A: All forms of premarital relationships are haraam. You should immediately end the relationship and seek forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala for getting involved in this sin. Make a firm resolve that you will not repeat this sin in the future. A girl should not independently look for her suitor, instead she should allow her parents to decide in these matters. Discuss the matter with you parents. If they find the boy to be your match, then they may get you married to him.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)