Q: I would like to find out something regarding talaaq. My husband and I have been recently divorced due to many issues we have been having along the years. About 6 years actually. Two years ago I met someone and we fell in love, this man loves me and now wants to marry me. I love him too and want to be with him as well. He says when my iddat is over we will decide etc. I want to know if we can still communicate and keep in touch or am I forbidden to him for the duration of my iddat. We are both big business people and are well known in the community so we sometimes need to meet and talk etc. We will not hold or touch etc but sometimes need to meet to discuss the future. Kindly advise. Also he is currently married, he has big kids and does not want to lose them. I have asked him to let me go but this is not an option for him. His wife knows about us and threatens to take the kids away. His daughter will be married soon and will no longer be under the roof. The son is big and will definitely stay with his father as he does not get on with his mum. The smaller kid may be a problem. I understand that he does not need her permission to marry me and she cannot ask for a divorce for this reason. He says he wants to talk to her about a second wife. How does one approach this situation and soften the blow as most modern woman do not want to share their men. My head is in such a mess right now and cannot think straight, please make me maaf, will you kindly answer each part of my confused email. I really appreciate it.

Q: Please help me. I am in very serious trouble. I started to like a girl from the last 3 years. She used to live in Lahore. My parents did give me permission to choose my own spouse and they were very happy.  My mother agreed but my father and brothers were like we are not in this matter it's your own choice. Time passed, we got engaged last year everything was going smoothly. That girl supported me in every possible way. Two weeks back she visited my place for the first time with her mom and my dad and brother rejected her in first look and started to talk very negative about her. They went judgemental about her every negative thing they could find in her they lashed out. The girl is an orphan not to forget and my mom made a commitment to her mom that the wedding will be this year 2015. My mom also rejected her because of their personal reasons. She wanted a beautiful girl for me with a strong family background and stuff. Now no one is on my side. My dad is getting very angry and forcing me to call off this engagement and finish this relationship with her. Tell me what are my rights now? I'm planning to run away because they clearly won't accept her at any cost. Please guide me what to do?

Q: If I am going to college, can I share an apartment with my friends (all girls and bestfriends) away from family?

Q: I know I am supposed to listen and obey my parents but I wanted to give sadaqa on a regular basis where the charity takes the money out of my bank account weekly but my dad said not to do that saying we don't have much money and just to put some loose change in sadaqa from my pocket now and then. However, I do feel that I have sufficent funds for my needs and the rest is spare. So what shall I do, shall I listen to my dad or shall I just keep giving on a regular basis from my bank account?

Q: I am a married woman and have three children. I am staying in India whereas my husband is working abroad. I am married since the last ten years. In theses ten years I have seen that my husband is very short tempered. He often gets fits of anger. He is a very loving husband but when he gets upset on anything whether it is my fault or not he shouts at me, insults me, uses bad words for me and my family and even beats me in front of my children, his parents, brothers and sister. It seems as if he has become mad. Many a times it happens that he doesn't even talk to me for months. As a wife I never felt close to him. He is a very religious person but has no control over his anger. I feel very lonely and my life has become a hell. Please suggest me some dua or wazifa for my husband's short tempered nature and to gain his love and respect.