Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Non-Muslim changing his name

Q: My friend has recently reverted to Islam and the question has been asked if he has to change his name or he can keep his name?

Also, he is soon to be married, Insha Allah, to a Muslim girl... if it is permissible to keep his name, does it impact the performance of the nikkah in any way?... Can the nikkah continue as normal with just his non-Arabic name?

Remarrying if one finds a suitable partner

Q: I am 30 years of age and divorced with 2 kids a girl and a boy. I have been a lone parent for over 8 years now and I really feel that I need a partner and at the same time I worry for my kids too. My parents don't want to get me remarried because of the children. My mum worries too much about the kids that if their own father left them then how can a step father take care of them. I agree with her too but I am there for my children and always will be, they are my life, but there are some good people out there too. A father can leave his kids but a mother can never leave her children. Could you please tell me a dua or a wazifa that I can read so that my parents think about me and my children, accept that fact and I get a very good life partner that will accept me with my 2 kids and fulfil the duties of a real father.

Honouring one's promise

Q: My husband sometimes gets very moody and talks rudely to me. This is getting out of hand so we spoke about it and he agreed to stop. My husband is very weak and we both know that when he is moody he can't control himself and he will speak rudely to me. We both agreed verbally that if he speaks rudely to me I won't have any physical relations with him for 3 days. Mufti if within those 3 days if he asks me to have a relation with him and I refuse am I sinful?

Cure for masturbation

Q: I started pleasuring myself since I was 12. I didn't know what it was up until I was 13/14. It eventually turned into an addiction so bad that sometimes I did it in school. I tried really hard to get rid of this sinful habit by asking for Allah's help but eventually would slip into the sin. This sinful habit ruined my life, and I don't want it to ruin my life anymore. Also I've missed many prayers due to this sinful addiction. Am I supposed to make up those many prayers I missed? If yes, how should I do it.  Please give me advice on how to stop this addiction and please make du'a for me and for all brothers and sisters with issues whether it is the same issue as mine or not.

Sleeping undressed

Q: Is it allowed to sleep naked wihout clothes during the night or after having relations. Particularily I am asking about the wife and is it allowed to sleep in half cut clothes like bra and panty only or in a maxy?

Listening to one's parents

Q: I like a girl and want to marry her but my father doesn't want ... Once my elder sister and her husband went to her home for rishta and they agreed but when the girl's father told to us that our father must also come for rishta with relatives, my father did not agree to go to her home. Please give me a wazifa so that my father will agree.