Hurmat-e-Musaaharah

Hurmat-e-musaaharat

Q: For hurmat musaaharat to be established, is it necessary that shahwah be felt at the exact time of touching. Now suppose a man touches a female. He did not intend to touch her with desire. But their hands were together for a few times. At this time the man felt lust. That mans, shahwah was not present at the beginning of the touching, but it came when the hands were in contact of each other. Does it establish hurmat musahara?

Son touching the mother

Q: About fifteen to twenty years ago my brother touched my mother at chest near neckline. My mother being a very light sleeper woke up. I got to know about hurmat-e musaharat masala sometime ago. I'm not sure about his age. It may be 13 or below. My mother is absolutely sure that he didn't touch her with lust. But I'm having guman that may be my parents nikaah is broken. I'm very depressed.

Doubts on hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I usually get thoughts on hurmate mushahara, like when I shake my dads hand, I am scared and worried. I don't have lust but I get thoughts that suppose it is lust. My father in law is old, about 60 something and Aalim. Now he was lying down in the room and I was in the other room. It was open so I could see who was sleeping. Now I get these thoughts about lust. So my father in law was sleeping and I went to pray namaz. I was just looking at his private parts, it was not open, he had on kafni n izhaar so I couldnt see his private part and the room was kinda dark and I was a distance away. Now I didn't have any desire but I just get these thoughts about lust. I was just looking at the private part area but father in law had on his pants. So after I saw something like a penis, I was thinking that his private part was out when he was sleeping or was it a material. I saw not sure but my heart was thinking that it was not his penis showing. I just get these thoughts and I don't want them. I have no lust feeling for my father in law and I didn't look with lust. I just looked because I wanted to see if I get these thoughts. Is my nikaah valid or will hurmate mushahara apply?