Tahaarat

Method of making ghusal

Q: Please can  you tell me am I making ghusal right as I was thought this way in school.

  1. Make niyyah
  2. Wash private parts
  3. Wash hands
  4. Make complete wudu
  5. Pour water over entire body 3 times.

I have been told this is incorrect. An is it the same for males?

Washing off urine

Q: Does getting urine on one's body require that person to perform ghusl? Because in old age sometimes one gets a few droplets of urine on oneself
without knowing, what should one do in that case?

Wasaawis and doubts

Q: My question is regarding istinjaa and relieving oneself/washing etc. I suffer from a lot of doubts and Alhumdullilah by the will of Allah I am trying to get rid of them. I have a lot of doubt and worry however when going to the bathroom and have a couple of questions: 

1. After completely squeezing and wiping urine from my private part I use water to wash as well. sometimes when washing I see that a very tiny droplet of water has touched the hair of my thigh and i start pouring water there and on the other thigh and start to get obsessive, this is starting to affect my skin also. Is this water that touches my private part after completely impure? (this is when washing after completely squeezing all urine drops off and wiping with toilet paper)

2. After passing stool, because of my doubt I do not know if I am clean an end up looking at the tissue after wiping to see if there is any stool on it. Sometimes when looking as well I see a tiny black dot which could be thread from underwear, or hair even some skin maybe and I carry on washing and wiping wasting toilet paper and water. How many times does a person need to wash before becoming clean? 

Please advise as these doubts trouble me and I end up pouring water over the taps and jugs messing the bathroom as I think my finger touched there or some water touched my finger and this might have messed somewhere else.