Marital Issues

Q: I need help. I'm a mother of three kids and my husband is in another country. It's been two months he is not replying to my emails or my
phone calls. I have called him 100 times with more than 100 emails. I need your help give me a dua so he can call me and talk to me because he is with friends who is making him do drugs and drink alcohol and telling him not go call me. I am married to him I am under his nikaah and he's neglecting me and my kids for his friends. He is not even supporting me with money. My father is helping me to pay my rent and utilities bills. Give me a dua so my husband can come back to me Insha Allah and listen to me and love me like he used to. Please send me a dua urgently it's been 2 months he didn't call or talk to me or his kids. When I call him he ignores my calls all his friends pick up his phone and tells me not to call him again. I am lost what to do my kids are crying and sick after the fathers voice when I email him that your kids are sick he used to say show me proof. That's all he would say and curse me blaming men on me. I need a dua urgently please. 

Q: I have been married since 2008. During my first year of marriage, my husband hit me, swore me, smashed the wind-screen of my car and used drugs. I went back home for nine months trying to get my talaaqs from the jamiatul-ulema. They said we should reconcile. We did reconcile and I fell pregnant. My husband started using drugs and got hectic, straight after I gave birth, he went to rehab. When he came out, we went for counselling and soon afterwards, I suspected he was using, but he said it was only weed. I fell pregnant again but had a  miscarriage. I refused to go back unless he signs a conditional talaaq valid for six months. In that six months he broke two of the conditions. We then went for marital counselling. He still abuses me mentally and verbally. He doesn't physically abuse me as bad as before. He
just pushes and pulls here and there. I got a faskh granted on this basis from an Imaam who is an Islamic minister at a certain center and began sitting my iddat. Now he says that he has found out from Ulama' that my faskh is not valid. Is my fasgh valid and who can issue a fasgh? I do not want to go back.

Q: Their is a friend of mine who wants to marry a girl but he is not able to decide as the girl has told him that she was in relation with a boy in past and has been physical with him also. And on the contrary my friend has also been physical but he has made a serious repent to Allah and is a practising muslim now Alhamdulillah. So he is very much confused now whether he should marry a girl who is not pure? Though he is not in touch with that girl now but is still very much confused about that girl what to be done. As he himself is not pure but now has made sincere tauba. So request you please help on this case.

Q: I have been married for 15 years but my marital life has turned up side down, in fact last few months back my wife was supposed to take khula but since I cried for the children that got postponed. Now my wife's father in demanding me to give talaaq as they will not give me khula' and are making a lot of false allegations. I am not interested in giving talaaq but her parents are demanding from me talaaq as in the case of Indian law they can ask anything from me after talaaq or they can even put false cases and can extract money and property from me. Please advise me can I refuse to give talaaq and is this as per Shari'ah law? In case she wants she can go for khula.

Q: I am married to a girl. In my short age and its five years of marriage now she is not taking care of me and my family. We have done love marriage and no one is happy. She is also involved with another guy also. I forgave her a lot of times but she didn't become true again. Now I have left her at her home and want a divorce from her and even I have contact with another girl who loves me a lot and even we have close relation like we have done kisses and hugs not more than that. I also want to marry her. Could you please tell me is my nikaah already raised with her and what will I do to solve this problem because my first wife don't want to leave me and this one also don't want to leave me as we are in a close relation?

Q: My husband is talking to another woman. I have seen his messages on his phone and it makes me very uncomfortable. He goes to see her and talks to her everyday. Once I confronted him and he accuses me of asking for a divorce. At times I struggle with this but then I remind myself Allah has a plan for and sabr is the key. This is not the first time he has done this but I forgave him every time but on this occasion I cannot get it out of my head. I say to myself Allah is all seeing all knowing and Allah will show him and better him. But this does not satisfy my feelings. Please help.

Q: My husband promised me that if I allow him to marry a second wife he will buy me my own house. We are living with his parents for the past 8 years. I accepted it because I knew that nothing is going to stop him from wanting a second wife and I have lived in his parents house for long a home of our own is something we dreamed of a long time. We started looking at houses same time he was looking for a wife. Any way he got married and after some time he told me that a Moulana told him he can't buy a house for me because if he does he has to buy the same kind of house for his second wife even if she doesn't need it she can rent it out. I know all about equality between wives etc but this promise was made to me before he married her. She has her own apartment which her father bought for her after her divorce. I feel cheated I feel very very very cheated. I don't think our Allah is a oppressor and I feel very oppressed right now. I share a room with my 4 kids. It's not fair on me this can't be fair.

Q: I stay in a joint family of one brother in law and my husband. But there is a problem with my brother in law and his wife. She does not want to stay with my parent in-laws but his parents don't want him to go nor he wants to get separated and stay with his wife and they have a son who is disabled. What dose the shariyah decide on it? She is planing to go to the shariyah court and if they don't agree, she will go to the court. 

Q: I want to know that I am in a nikaah for the last 7 years but till now I am at my parents home. No rukhsati has been done. My in-laws are dodging us. I want to know is there any wazeefa that I can do so that they will start taking some steps for this as soon as possible. Please help me. I am very much worried.

Q: My friend took khula from her husband (father of her kids) and after a year did nikaah with someone else. After 2 months she left him and went back to her ex-husband and denied her nikaah with the second husband and remarried her first husband without taking divorce from the second husband. She said that the second husband is lying about their nikaah and even filed a case of marriage jactation against the second husband in the court which is still pending. Now after 2 years she is again meeting the second husband secretly while she is still staying with her first husband and now she says that the second husband is her husband and she has sexual relationship with him and goes back home and acts like her first husband's wife and also has sexual relations with him. Please tell me who is her Islamic husband and who is doing zina with her?