Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Walimah is preferable after sharing the bed (without any Shar'iee restrictions) or preferable after nikaah?

Q: Say if a mahr was stipulated that the man must teach his wife quraan during the marriage and before he taught her quraan he wants to marry another woman. Must he first finish teaching his first wife because that was her mahr before he marries another or can he marry already?

Q: Is it permissible to me to ask for 1 date for my mahr? I would like to ask my fiancee to go to the poorest date seller, ask him how
much 1 kg of dates cost (f.e. 10 Dinar) and ask him how many family member he has (f.e. with him included there are 6 people living with him) so my fiancee should multiply the cost of 1kg of dates with the family members (inc. the date seller). f.e. 60 Dinars. So I want my fiancee to pay the date seller 60 Dinars, but take only 1 Date as my mahr and leave the others to the date seller as a sadaqa. I would like to eat the date with my fiancee's mother and my mother, and plant it to a tree (in shaa allah). I also would ask (as part of my mahr) for the surah mulk to get recited by him from his heart.

Is this permissible that he give me this 1 date + reciting one surah under such extraordinary circumstances? Or is the mahr void if I just ask for that?

A: My wife is 23 weeks pregnant and we have just been advised by two specialists that:

- The heart of the foetus is extremely enlarged such that it is filling up the entire width of the chest cavity (the normal ratio is 60% of the cavity. In this case, its wall to wall)

- The right ventricle valve is deformed and not closing, which is resulting in back flow of blood back into the right atrium (instead of towards the lungs as it should be)

- The pulmonary arteries are half the diameter that they should be at this stage of development, meaning that there is insufficient blood flow to the lungs.

- As the heart is so large, the lungs are severely under-developed, and they are uncertain how these will hold up at the time of birth

- The specialists are certain that any form of operation post birth will not be corrective, and whatever they do may only prolong the condition of the newborn for a short period.

In summary, their prognosis is very poor, such that they are of the opinion that the foetus is likely to suffer heart failure even before reaching full term. In the event that it does reach full term, it will require immediate intensive care and surgery to re-direct blood flow away from the left side of the heart directly towards the lungs, implying that the newborn will only be surviving by using one side of the heart. This in itself, they believe, will not last long as the heart cannot sustain this in any meaningful manner.

International research (performed by myself) confirms their assessment and prognoses that death before full term is very likely, and if not, death within 3-4 weeks after birth should be expected.

At this stage, they cannot determine the impact that the heart enlargement and pulmonary arteries under-development, is having on the other organs in the body, except to say that, in their opinions, the condition of the foetus will only get worse and will not be compatible with life. 

Notwithstanding the 120 day 'rooh entering the body' consensus, would it be Islamically permissible (or not) to terminate the pregnancy?

Q: I have a "Memon" friend who wants to marry a "Surti" girl. His parents do not wish this to happen. I obviously know that the parents are in the wrong to draw a divide in this manner as they are both Muslim. However, I am also aware that the blessings of the parents are important to a marriage, and going against them will most probably result in a severing of family ties. Firstly, should I try to speak to the parents and/or mediate between the parties. And secondly if this fails do I still encourage the marriage or do I encourage him to respect his parents' wishes. Please advise

Q: Is a wife allowed to leave the husband when he needs her and go and pray witr namaaz?

Q: I have done sex with my wife during menses by mistake. According to Islam what should I do now?

Q: Is it Sunnah to perform nikaah in the Musjid on a Friday after the Jumu'ah Salaah or after the Asr Salaah?

Q: I want to marry a girl. My family and the girl is ready but her family after too much effort is not agreeing. The girl is now separate and totally disconnected from her family. Can I marry her with the will of my family?