Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Consent of the wali

Q: I have a question regarding the consent of a wali in a hanfi nikah? I have done extensive research on the topic and in many instances it states that a wali is advisable but not entirely required in all circumstances. Can you clearify this for me?

Anal sex

Q: Is it allowed to have sex with the wife from her back side without intercourse from the back side (just to rub the man sexual organ with the wife's back side)?

Mahrams

Q: Please confirm if the following is correct.

Relationship

Mahram

For Me

For Wife

elder sister of my father

YES

YES

younger sister of my father

YES

YES

elder sister of my wife father

NO

YES

younger sister of my wife father

NO

YES

daughter of sisters of my father

No

YES

son of sister of my father

YES

NO

son of sister of my wife father

YES

NO

daughter of my mother brother

NO

YES

son of my mother brother

YES

NO

mother of father in law

YES

YES

sister of father in law

NO

YES

mother of mother in law

YES

YES

sister of mother in law

NO

YES

father of my father

YES

YES

brothers of my father

YES

YES

father of my mother

YES

YES

brothers of my mother

YES

YES

wife of my mother brother

NO

YES

Disabled person sending a proposal

Q: I am computer science graduate and working in a multinational in my homeland. Throughout my life I have struggled hard to get my achievements because I am a disabled person. My left limb is artificial but Alhamdulillah I have always overcomed my disability in my life. Now I am in a very good position to support myself as well as my family. After my disability I have moved and studied with others and I also do the same jobs like other normal people. My personal analysis is that I can do Nikah which is declared a part of faith in Islam. My parents are also emphasizing upon me to marry now at the age of 29 years. I love my religion and try to follow all sunnahs Alhamdulillah. The questions I like to know is that   I know a lady not in my family but relative to my elder brother's wife whose husband died in an air crash in Pakistan. This widow lady is the mother of two and also taking care of her husbands mentally disabled sister. I have intention to marry this lady as I have met her late husband once in life and due to the character Islamic personality of her late husband I wish and  feel  to provide the love & care  to her and her children in an Islamic manner. My wishes and intentions are all within the limits of my religion but my disability is the obstacle in my  powerful ambitions. I have to take this important decision in my life so everything I wish to do is according to the will of Allah. I have few questions to ask you.

Child born before six months from the time of nikaah

Q: Please could you answer the following question I need the info to settle a dispute. I was taught that when a person gets pregnant out of wedlock and gets married to the person the child is still considered illegitimate if born fewer than 6 months after the marriage. My sister-in-law says that if the mother has 7 children altogether that it will then make the first born halal. Could this possibly be true? I battle to grasp the logic. Please help.