Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: A Molisab recently said in a bayan:

"The Islamic method of giving money to one's spouse (wife) is as follows; you should give her household shopping money so that she can buy food and other such things for the family (the husband and children). As regards to this 'shopping money' you are allowed to ask her to show you how she spent the money and she is not allowed to give sadaqa, etc from that money without your permission.

In addition to that you have to give her regular 'spending/pocket money' for her services to you as she can't go out to earn herself (as she is busy serving you and the children). As regards to this 'pocket money' after you give it to her it becomes her 'mi-lk' (possession) and therefore you can't ask her how she spent the money or who she spent it on, etc. If she wishes she can give it all to her parents and you have to right to ask or demand that she stops giving to her parents, etc.

The wife should also save up the 'pocket money' and give her zakat , go for hajj and perform other obligations with this money instead of paying zakat, etc from the husbands money "

Mufti saheb my question is - Is this statement of the Molisab correct?

Q: A young girl has married over a year ago into a united family of five members comprising of her husband, his father, mother, younger brother (unmarried) and younger sister (already married). The husband’s demand over his wife is that she become part of and fully blend with his family in order to make him happy. His demand is that he will and can only be happy with her if his family is happy with her. The wife, whilst making some attempts to do so, has been having difficulty with and also occasionally unwilling to agree fully to keeping to the terms of his demand while also having to take care of a six month old baby.

Can this demand of the husband upon his wife be an acceptable and justifiable cause for his marriage to weaken or break up as he has threatened to do so on occasions?

Q: Could you please forward me any article or kindly let me know any book name how one can spend first night marriage life according to Shari'ah as I was asked by one of my friends he told me that you have to make maswara with respected ulama, that's why only I am sending this message to you, kindly confirm urgently. 

Q: I am writing this email because someone known to me is facing a strange situation and have insisted me to ask you this question. He is already married but have contracted nikah with someone else as well. However, when he committed the second lady about nikah, there wasn't any witness to that. Soon after that promise (or whatever you call it) the lady called her father and told about it. Father called the person and showed his agreement to her daughter's decision. Then they publicized this agreement to their family members. The first wife of the person called the lady and discussed various matters about her husband's marriage with the lady. Subsequently, the first wife announced that in their family. everyone accepted this decision. However, till date no formal document has been signed.

Now a million dollar question is about validity of this nikah. Please comment in the light of Quran and Sunnah.

Q: My father in law asked his daughter in front of myself and my two uncles whether she agreed to marry my brother. She allegedly replied 'yes.' My wife seen her sister nod her approval. My two uncles both heard the reply but I neither heard the question nor the reply because it was done in such a soft tone. Subsequently, in my presence and my brother in laws presence she was asked again to clarify. This time I heard the reply. My question is that tomorrow at the Musjid my uncle and I are witnesses to this marriage on the documentation that the girl signed. My uncle and I will also have to sign the same or another document.

1. Will the marriage be valid based on the fact that, when asked by the Imam, both witnesses on the documentation, my uncle and I did not both hear the girl say yes at the same time, i.e. I heard her say yes about half hour later, when the girl was asked again.
2. Is it permissible for me to sign the document saying I was a witness and say so when asked by the imam.

Q: I just want to ask a question about the money for a wife. I am pregnant my husband fulfills my all needs, but he does not give me pocket money as I need it for myself. e.g for my parents. My husband can afford it. Should he give me money or not?

Q: Could you please explain according to hanafi maslak. The below issue belongs to my friend: 

His father-in-law has two wives. 1 son is belongs to the 1st wife. 1 daughter belongs to the 2nd wife. Please tell me, is the 2nd wifes daughter  maharam to the 1st wifes son and are both considered as brother & sister.  

Q: I read a Hadith which says,” The prophet (peace be upon him) once told one of his companions to choose a wife from a tribe different to his, and then to choose for his son a wife from a third tribe and to seek for his second son a girl from yet another tribe”. My question is, is this Hadith authentic? If so then it means that marriages should not be done within close family as cousins etc. I appreciate if you please comment.

Q: Can someone marry his sister in law (sali) at same time while he is already married to her sister? I mean can I marry my sister in law (Sali) without leaving my wife?