Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: I am in a very difficult situation, please reply to my query. I used to like a boy who was very pious and prayed and used to fast, give charity, help others and pray tahajjud as well. We liked each other and many a times he helped me raise in my iman. He brought the proposal to my parents but my parents refused based solely on the cast system; him being pathan and me being syed. He was earning but not much, but enough for 2 of us. I still liked him and we tried our best to please my parents and seek their approval but all in vain. My parents used to beat me alot till my face used to swell. My brother used to physically molest me. This went on for one and half year. So one day when I feared for my life we went ahead and did nikah as per hanafi fiqh. We had the qazi, and a muslim man (sane adult) at the nikah ceremony. We read our nikah and qazi and another muslim man heard offer and acceptance of the nikah. we declared the nikah infront of our family and friends. Marriage was consummated. Then my parents forcefully brought me back home by making false promises and then they started beating me and strangled me and threatened me to forget the boy or else they will kill both of us. Then after sometime they married me off by pressuring me, to another man who is also a good man but he doesn’t know anything about my past. My family threatened me not to tell. Now few years have passed and I am living with this other man. If I leave, my parents will again beat me and harm me. And emotionally blackmail me that they will lose their reputation if I leave second man. My first husband has never given me talaq nor have I asked for khula. Please help me what should I do? I have kids also with second man what is the status of both marriges? I have always wondered what will Allah will do with me but I still believe what he does is for good. My parents separated me from first man on bases of many lies like my nikah was not valid. Please help me what should I do islamically?

Q: Can a widow's son become her wali for her nikaah if he is baaligh?

Q: I got to know a person with a rare illness who is bedridden for years. I am willing to marry him but my parents consent is doubtful. Can I marry him to help him to protect his chastity? Please advise me on this.

Q: I would like to know, I am separated from my elder daughter's mother, and my daughter lives with the mother. My daughter made nikaah a few days ago, and she used consent from her mother's current husband, although I maintained her all through the years, but when she graduated from university, and started working, she distanced herself from me. There was a proposal for her, which I was informed about, but as time passed, approvals, wedding dates were set by her mother, without consulting me. Subsequently the nikaah happened last Saturday. I was not informed by either her or her mother about the date. I would like to know is it permissible for her to use her mother's current husband as a person to give consent for the nikaah?

Q: My father cannot be present for my nikaah due to his age and difficulty in travelling. How will he still serve as my wali and how will procedures of nikaah be?

Q: I would like to know is it possible for a girl to take her uncle or any other guy relative as her wali while her father is alive? People in my place where I live tell their daughters when the mufti ask you who is your wali then tell him your uncle, etc. So during nikah the girl takes someone else as her wali instead of her father. And that also when the father is alive living with the girl and happy with the marriege? Is this kind of nikah valid? In Islam is this permissible or is it just a cultural thing? I am really confused. I heard in proper Islamic nikah, the wali must be the girl's father unless he is dead.

Q: I want to marry a Hindu girl. She wants to accept Islam but the problem is that neither her parents are agreeing with us nor my parents. So please guide us what we need to do because nikaah is very important for us as soon as possible.

Q: I have  a lot of proposals for my daughter but they are not good. They dont pray and haram income. One good proposal came, he prays and is always attending the masjid and halaal income Masha Allah, but her father refused him because he is not from Yemen, he is from Libya and half Egyptian. Can I marry my daughter by force with out my husband's consent in this situation because he would rather give her to a zany as long as he is from Yemen then a practicing Muslim from a different country. What can I do in this situation.

Q: One of my distant relatives, we both like each other and want marry. My parents are ready for the relation, however the girls father is not ready to make this relation with us. The girl and I want to marry.

1. Is it right if we do nikaah with shari witnesses without her parent's permission (she is underage according to India's rule i.e. girl is 18 or above years old.)

2. Can we do nikaah and live separate from each other until she turns 18 years?

3. Once she is 18 years of age, can we marry through court registrar?

Q: Can a Muslim girl above 18 years of age marry on her own to a practicing Muslim without any wali or without informing her parents. Will such a nikaah without any wali be valid?