Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Q: Can a girl choose her father in law and her brother in law as wali or wakeel of nikah?

Q: A marriage proposal came for my daughter. The boy and his family involve in barelvi practices which we consider baseless, as my family is firm deobandi. In the situation, should I consider this proposal or not? If I refuse it would I be sinful because there is no big issue in the proposal apart from that. Please guide me properly so that it would help further.

Q: I am an unmarried girls of 32 yrs age. I am not getting any good match.  One person wants to get married to me as his 2nd wife. My mother is denying to do so. What shall I do.

Q: My family follow deobandi practices strictly and refrain from all bid'ah but I want to know whether it is allowed to marry my daughter in a family who offer five time salah, are decent but are involved in some bid'ahs practices?

Q: My parents have fixed my marriage in relationship. I said yes because I thought they are happy. But nowadays I don't want to marry that person. Every time it's cry like situation. Now I told my uncle. He has said my sister keep mum. What should I do?

Q: My family are trying to set me up as a marriage proposal to my second cousin but he is a salafi. Is there anything I need to know before trying to move forward with this?

Q: If I have married someone without my father's permission, is it valid? There were people who were present during the marriage but I don't know them. Hanafi mazhab allows it but in Tirmidhi, its against this type of marriage. Why is it? What should I do now if I got married like this without knowing. Should I get married with him again with my father's permission?

Q: I was married before and have a son who was born within my marriage and now I am divorced and would like to remarry. However I have no relationship at all with my eldest brother who supposed to be my wakeel, as he does not acknowledge me and he even calls me a Kaafir infront of people. He always insults me infront of others. He does not greet me back when I greet him and he is also someone that had been for hajj and prays 5 times a day. He is my fathers eldest son from his first wife and I am the youngest daughter of the 2nd wife. Both my mother and our father passed on. My question is if I would like to get married, do I need his permission since I have already been married, as I am trying to be the better person but he does not allow me to as I have now decided to keep my distance from him.

Q: I'm a twenty two year old female, and I have met someone I am ready to get married to. Alhamdulillah he is an Aalim and a qari. My parents, on the other hand don't want to give it a chance. They refuse to even meet him. I don't know what to do because I just have positive thoughts about this. I acknowledge that meeting him out of nikkah was wrong but I just want to make it right. Please advice. 

Q: A Muslim guy approached me and proposed marriage. I explained it to my parents and they asked me to invite him to the house, he told his father but his dad rejected me saying he wants his son to marry a daughter of his friend or else he will disown him. Will I break relation or I pray to Allah to have the guy back or what should I do? I am really confused.