Q: I am a 28 year old divorced Muslimah with no kids. I recently met someone who is keen on making nikaah. He has 2 boys, 11 and 6. I am willing to accept them as my own and mould them into pious young Muslims in sha allah. There is something that I am scared about though. I'm scared of when they decide to become rebellious towards me. How do I react? Will it affect my relationship with my spouse?
Q: My father had 4 brothers and 1 sister. After my grandfather's death my father's eldest brother usurped the leather factory which was in the name of all brothers and changed the name of the factory in his daughter's name depriving all the three brothers and their children off their rights.
After this he and his wife did all the wrong which they could possibly do with us from fighting to abusing to physically hurting and even spreading bad things about us to all other relatives. Yet after all this when the same eldest brother fell ill all other brothers took care of him and helped him. His wife for that period of time became good and changed. But as soon as her husband passed away she became the same old evil lady. Yet others kept patient with her and kept ties with her.
She is good to us only when she feels the need for the family support and once her work is done she changes to be the same mean and evil lady. So my question is how to deal with such a relative who from the very beginning has only given loss and hurt and bad memories to us but becomes good when she needs us? She is good to us as long as she knows she will be benefitted from us but when there is any discussion about the family property or division she becomes the most evil person changing her attitude completely.
Q: My father in law can’t move by himself so he uses diapers but he always takes off his diapers in front of me and the kids even sometimes he passes urine without asking to close the doors. What should I do?
Q: I am a teenager, but I don't read salaah or Qur'aan anymore, and my parents don't enforce it. Whilst living with my grandmother, it was enforced. I don't want to lose my faith. Reading salaah and Qur'aan are becoming difficult. My questions are:
1- how do I regain my faith and just become a better Muslim overall?
2- what books (excluding the Qur'aan) would you recommend for a Muslim to read regardless of the situation?
3- If a person were to begin learning arabic, how would you suggest they go about it?
Q: What should a person do when they are unnecessarily scolded or taunted just because they speak the truth or cant stand injustice and those doing so are one's elders in authority? Should a person speak up when he finds some wrongdoing or be numb and don't react and be a hypocrite for the sake of survival in a negative environment which unfortunately has become common in our modern society. What does Islam say about it as there are many people who deal with difficult ones either for the sake of jobs or family peace and work.
Q: As an inexperienced youngster, if I need advice regarding something, not a fiqh aspect and nothing to do with halaal and haraam, but just personal advice that I wish to seek from elders... preferably people with deeni knowledge, can I send an email to more than one Mufti or Moulana that I trust? Not to cause differences or confusion amongst people but just simply to understand the different wisdoms and advices that each one can give that could potentially greatly benefit me.
Q: I know the sin of talking bad about ones parents is huge and one can be cursed by Allah. My husband swore his father behind his back for switching on his house alarm when he told him not to.
He also says things behind his fathers back like he gave him nothing and did nothing for him and says similar things about his mother. He never tells them that to their faces and doesnt act rude to them but his not talkative or friendly to them.
I'm just worried if he is cursed for saying such things then his my husband and I dont want to live or be married to someone who bad things will happen to. What should I do?
Q: My husband has recently demanded that I start working, as he feels that I need to be independent. Before, when I was working, he wanted me to stop as he felt that I was slacking in my marital duties.
Also, when I was working, he expected me to buy all the household appliances and furniture and groceries because my salary was more than his. However, since I have not been working he has still insisted that I contribute my savings to the monthly bills. He gives me a nafaqah amount that is less than half of what he wants me to spend every month. I'm at a loss as he refuses to listen to reason because in his eyes he gives me nafaqah so he's not in the wrong at all. What can I do?
Q: Girl had a relationship in past and now she got married and she is true to her husband but her husband came to know of her past relationship and he seeks a divorce. What does Islam says about this situation?
Q: I am a 28 year old single woman who works full time. I moved in with my grandmother when I was 14 as I left my home after being sexually abused by my step father. My mother chose not to believe me and continued to live with him.
I am deeply unhappy with where I am living. My grandmother and uncles resent me being there. I have been emotionally abused and told to get married and leave. There is so much pressure to get married that it has put me off marriage altogether.
I also am very unhappy about having to lie to others about why I do not live with my mother and covering for my stepfather. I’m not sure how I can go into a marriage with lies about my past. I don’t want to lie and I want my mother and family to believe that the abuse happened.
I’ve come to a point where I feel very low and almost despair for my future. I want to move out of my grandmothers and live alone to work on my own happiness and peace. Then inshallah marriage and everything else will fall into place. At the same time I’m conflicted as to doing what’s right by me or what’s right by my family. It wouldn’t be culturally accepted for me to live alone unmarried. I
want to ask what the right thing to do is from an Islamic and not cultural perspective.