Advice

Q: I am married for 29 years with 5 children. All are grown up now. 15 years ago my husband stopped sleeping with me and stopped all activities of married life with me but we both live in one house in separate rooms. We are together because of the kids. Are we still husbsnd and wife or is our relationship affected? He hates me and don’t want to live with me. He said that our nikaah is no more because he did not come close to me for 15 years.

Q: I want to know about how my dealings should be towards my step daughters. My husband has 3 daughters from his deceased wife. They are all grown up adult girls. 2 of them are married and the last one is also grown up. It would have been easier and I have tried it but the last daughter has got an arrogant and negative attitude sometimes. What should I do?

Q: If a sinful muslim has too many problems and issues in life, are they tests or punishment from Allah?

Q: If a person believes in Allah, salah, fasting, zakah, hajj, etc. and all the compulsory things but does't practice them, is he still a Muslim and would he enter Jannah one day?

Q: I want advices. Whenever I hear or read about hoors I became depressed. I read hadiths about their beauty, perfume, singing, skin colour etc. I'm dark and I had hurtful comments about this (it seemed that I had a trauma when I read about hoors the first time) and I suffer of hirsutism.

I grew up with the idea that a soul was united with her/his half. Not a soul united with several people. I believed in a monogamous marriage where a person desires ONLY one not others. Like a princess gets his prince, not that the princess had to share with others. I know that men desire women. I know that but I can't go through this. I don't know what to do, even hearing the words relating to hoors I became upset. It's difficult to read Qur'an and hadiths, somehow I became demotivated to continue when I read hoors and it's becoming difficult to continue. Whenever I come across the verses about them, it seems that I'm self-lesioning...

Every time, a youtube video about them comes in the homepage I say to myself that I shouldn't be upset and then end up watching it and being hurt again. Everytime.... Men seem to be joyous and joke about it, like they don't mind that this thing hurts others... I'm so broken down and depressed. It happens everytime, and everytime I feel I'm distancing from Allah. I'm scared...

But I am so tired... when reading about them. Everybody seems to joke. But I take it seriously. So please don't be harsh, because it's already difficult. Be compassionate in my regards please.

Q: I need some help. I'm 23 years of age and from a conservative Muslim minority. My problem started when I was younger and I was introduced to porn movies and masturbation. I need your advice.

Q: Suppose a man came and sat in the masjid. He had torn pants above the thigh. Another man saw him and was trying to correct him, suddenly he got the thought that if he is sure that awrah uncovred will be invalidating prayer? He could not get any hadith or ayah that time in his mind. He became uncertain. So should he correct or not?

Q: I am requesting advice on behalf of a friend?

She is a highly educated individual in her mid 30s. She has lived abroad, earns well and also financially assists extended family. However, she suffers from obsessive compulsive disorder and some traits of autism. Her dilemma is that she is keen to settle down and start a family. Kindly advise if in your opinion and from your knowledge of the deen, your wisdom and having most probably raised a family yourself whether she should consider marriage at all given her health condition or commit solely to her career and providing for her family, extended family and contributing to the community?

Q: My mother is cheating us by having physical relation with other man . And me and my younger brother caught this and we tried more than three times to forgive her and advice her and show her the right path. She used to do five time namaz every day from her childhood itself but she cannot control her temptation with this man and always they are making physical relation when they get a chance. I am always a silent boy but my brother can’t control his anger and today he punched her because after promising upon allah that she will not repeat it she is continuing the relation and my brother caught again their voice calls and it’s beyond the limit . Sir please give me some advice to how to handle this situation.. and is it allowed to beat mother in this situation..

Q: I am a woman who lost my baby girl when she was only 1 year and 7 months. It is very difficult for me to face her lost. Whenever I think of her I can't bear that pain but I always think that she will b under Allah's protection so I feel little happy but I want to know the correct position of her and what amal can I do to benefit her?