Advice

Q: I gave a birth to a child and my husband is abroad. I'm living in my mother's place. My husbands family are living in another place. I feel my mother's place is comfortable for me. My in laws never take care of me and they never helped me in anything. They used to always fight and tell me that they will tell my husband to divorce me. There are too much troubles. This is my first child birth and it is hard to do things alone so I'm staying in my mother's place. My mother helps me and she washes all the dirty cloths of mine and my child's. She take care of my child also and does all my things. Now I have bleeding also I feel I should stay in my mother's care. But my husband troubles me to stay with my in laws, so I explained the situation of my in laws but he don't want to listen to me. What should I do?

Q: I have been living with my father and step mother for the last 25 years and I have a step brother and step sister. I got married 3 years ago but my father somehow is not happy with my marraige. My father accused me of having sexual relations with my stepmother 2 years ago and then he apologised. Recently he again accused me of having illicit relations with my stepmother and he informed my in-laws also. What am I supposed to do now....where am I supposed to live?

Q: I married 2 years ago. Since my husband is working in a foreign country, we don't have children. Though he returns home he refuses to stay with me, and always be nervous about his job. If he wishes, he stays with me, and he refuses to fulfil my desires and feelings, but he wants children and sometimes hurts me for not having a baby for 2 years in front of others. All my family question me, what should I do? How can I have baby without him? Are there any duas to get my husband's love? And to have a baby quickly?

Q: I am 27 years old. I did my class 10 in 2008, likewise my class 12 in 2010 and my fraduation in enginerering in 2014. I did my 12 in Science Stream which was ordered by my father and uncle. I was then ordered to do my graduation which was also my father's decision. I left several jobs which was of my engineering field due to lack of interest. Now again I am in the same situation. My father has send me to out station for the same engineering job, which I am not interested in. I am fed up of my mind. I do not have a way out. I just want to stay my home town and work there of my choice. Will it be good? I dont want to live away from my family. Please suggest me some opinions. I am unable to take my decisions. I am pressurized by my uncle. I dont have a wealth love. I just want to stay my home town and earn my living.

Q: I have been staying with my parents and presently I am at the age of 36 unmarried female. During my childhood days I was facing troubles from a Hindu guy whom my father had taken debts..my parents asked me to tolerate the trouble of that guy just because they are under indebtedness. As of now they never asked me about my marriage nor searched alliances for me.. If I ask something they stop talking to me or behave rudely with me.. However, I have been tolerating it.. My question is as of today my two sisters are married and one of our brother-in-law he tries to seduce or grab my younger sisters and takes undue advantage of them. If they complain my parents especially mother asks them not to tell it to anybody fearing reputation and respect of the family.. Till what age they have to face this.. And my father he never listens to our problems.. Sometimes he listens to half of the issues and reacts without a second thought.. He stops talking with us... What we have to do.. We are helpless from all ends..

Q: How should one advise a female family member who feels strongly about gender equality?

Q: Sadly I have found a video recording of my wife with another man. Can I use this video in an Islamic court as proof of her cheating? It is conclusive that it is in fact her as there is mentioned very specific personal details.

Q: I am a Palestinian woman, 20 years old now in USA, my family is back in Palestine. Desperate for marriage I went on a Muslim matrimonial website and found a Pakistani man to be my husband. I have met his family and spent much time with his family. Due to our tradition though, he says he cannot marry me and will not marry me until he and his parents meet my parents. There really is not a way to make that happen at least for years. What do I do? What are the options for us? We are engaged, will I have to repent to Allah if this does not work out? I am so lost and alone please help.

Q: Your advice is being sought for the following:

In case a wife who has been advised not to do 'eyebrow shaping' (epilation des sourcils) numerous times by her husband, but the wife does not obey her husband and still does it often due to peer pressure because her sisters do it often. What course of action may the husband take?

Q: Today I saw a white spot on my wife's shalwar. I was amazed but I didnt ask her. Is it possible it can be any woman disease or my wife is unfaithful with me?