Q: Please advise. My wife does not want to have intercourse with me. I find my self wanting to stimulate myself using her shoe, can I do this? I am attracted to her feet. She won't even come close to me or satisfy me in any way. Please help I don't want to end the marriage.
Q: My husband has issued his first wife with three talaaqs years ago but still continued living with her as a married couple. When we got married last year she requested him to give her talaaq again which he gave her three talaaqs again. After three months, he issued her again with six talaaqs which she refused to accept. Husband ask me not to tell anyone that he has irrevocably divorced her and claims he only wants to care for her. Husband then left me in august while I was pregnant had me thrown out of rental home. Didn't bother finding out where I'm staying nothing. Accuse me of having affair, but was living with his ex-wife and even paying the bond of her house. He took back the car he bought me and allowed her to drive it. Took her on holidays etc. but refuses to set me free. I have consulted with three muftis and was told he doing a injustice upon me and my child who was born two months ago. Currently all his assets his house policies business she will inherited because he hasn't change his will. Islamically he knows what he is doing is against Allah Ta'ala's law but he doesn't seem to care. A mufti has spoken to him. He said he will rectify his wrongs but he hasn't. Will it be a sin upon me if I apply for a faskh because I cannot be involved in him committing zinah and pretending its okay. Also his ex is very abusive towards me and has always been and he allows it. She has even stated that he says my son is not his. Please advise.
Q: My husband drinks and gambles and has extra marital affairs with women, comes late at night three, four o'clock, does not give me and my daughters time, not even talk to me, always in anger, does not give me money, but he never beats me up or abuses, does not allow me to do job, but i'm totally fed up of his behaviour. Even I am in depression sometimes thinking of suicide. Can I seek divorce from him? How? What about sponsorship of daughters? Please guide me. Although I know Allah Ta'ala does not like divorce.
Q: Is it allowed in Islam for a husband to complain about his wife to his parents who in turn bad mouths his wife as well instead of giving him good advise?
Q: Is it right for in-laws to pass remarks and hint at the daughter in-law calling her a Satan, jaahill and judging her for 26 years?
Q: I am a 29 years old married male, married against my will (parents pressure) since last 3 years and suffering from depression since last 3 years because of it. I have a 9 months old daughter but my sexual satisfaction is not there. My wife really loves me but I unable love her back (never liked her face). I am emotionally destroyed because I really feel empty inside. I am planning to do a second marriage and for this purpose I ask a girl at my office whom I really like (she likes me too) but she is saying that I should leave my wife behind or make an agreement with her that I will spend only one day a week and the rest 6 with my second (probable) wife. I can't do this because I have heard that there is extreme punishment for inequality between wives and I am not that stone hearted to do so either, and now that girl has stopped talking with me and I am in intense depression. I can't work at my office properly, finding it hard to follow Deen because my mind is seriously disturbed since last 3 years. I wish I could die right now because its really seems impossible for me to live like this and still following Deen completely. Please make a dua for me and give me a solution.
Q: I am a married woman. My husband is impotent. What can I do to feed my sexual needs apart from fasting?
Q: I am in a difficult situation and need some help. I have been married for 6 months. My father in law gifted a house to my husband which we have been living in since the beginning. My husband has an elder sister who is divorced. She has been living with the elder brother and his family, but due to difference of opinions, some fights and due to not being enough space in their house, they can't keep her any longer. My father in-law has now asked us to take her into our house. My father in-law is married for the second time and lives with my husbands step mother, thats why its not possible for him to keep the daughter in his house. Another thing is that the sister in law has her own house (which she has rented out to someone) just 2 mins away from where we live. She is independent and works fulltime. I feel uncomfortable sharing the house with her because I have become used to having the house for my husband and me. We wont be able to have the same private life in the house with her presence. There is a big age difference between me and my sister in law and i am afraid that unwanted discussions/ fights can start in the house. What should we do in this situation? Should my husband try to ask my father in law as to why she cant live in her own house or should we just keep quiet and let her in the house?
Q: I am very stressed just wanted to know mufti. You the only person I know who can tell me what is right and what is wrong Islamicly. My husband is continuously communicating with his X wife and he hides what they discuss. When I ask, he says we are talking about the children and yet the last born of their kids is almost 25 years of age. So all four kids are big enough to come or call their father and talk to him themselves so why should he still talk to his X yet he told me I am not allowed to communicate with my X and ever since I do not talk to him but he says he needs to speak to his X. It hurts Mufti. I feel like I am nothing. What can I do?
Q: I had a excellent relationship with my in laws until Monday night. My wife made a request to visit her Granny at her parents place before leaving back to Cape Town. I agreed. We arrived at my inlaws place. I greeted everybody as usual and sat down with my father inlaw and brother inlaw. Azaan called and we all left for Esha. When we returned from Esha I did not go in to the house, I sat outside on the portch. I could overhear father inlaw, my wife, and my brother inlaw discussing his technicon registration, so the discussion went on for and hour or so while I sat outside on my own relaxing. My wife and father inlaw step out of the house, and my wife said she is ready to go, but she and my father inlaw was still saying a few words to each other, while I sat on the couch not saying anything. My father inlaw all of a sudden began to swear at me and shout me, telling me to get out. When i questioned him in a polite manner as to why is behaving in this manner he began to aggressive and wanted to beat me up. I was shocked. I got up jumped in my car and drove off. I was in a state of shock,it was the second time he has done this to me, The first I overlooked it and walked away. The next morning he sends me a text apologising for this, I did not reply as I am very upset as I have always respected this man and treated him like my own father. My question is, my wife shows no remorse for her fathers actions, secondly I need to know that i have decided not to go to my inlaws home anymore as I feel threatened and uneasy, is the permissible, and I will only allow my wife to visit once a week, and not go any where with her parents without my consent. Please reply with advise also.