Marital Issues

Q: I have been married now for 15 years. I have three children. My son is doing hifz. I just found out that my husband has been closely associated with a mutual friend. He has helped her purchase a car and often chats and gives her company as her husband has left her. She is Muslim but frequents clubs and night life. He enjoys this life too as he is never home with my kids and I. It was posted on facebook by her husband that my husband is a lucky guy because he has her. I don't wish to share a life with this man anymore as he has disrespected me and does not give me the companionship I desire. I have asked him to set me free and grant me my three talaaqs. He won't. Mufti I don't think its fair that he has best of both worlds. I realised I have sinned by asking for talaaq. What do I do to repent and what advice do you have for me on how to deal with this problem as I cannot bear to look at him. He feels like dirty trash to me.please help me.

Q: I am a revert. I have sent a question before asking about divorcing my husband. My husband is having relationships with other non muslim women. Takes them on coffee dates. Compliments them etc. I have gone to the Jamiatul ulama SA and my husband just says what they want to hear but he doesn't change his ways. They also don't follow up. Can I commit suicide? I'm tired of lies, fake Muslims and him.

Q: I have a very unusual question. I am married and alhumdullilah I am blessed with 2 sons. A few years ago my dad passed away in an accident and my mom was young so we decided to get her married and we did. But her husband was not of good character and he left her after two months and my Mom came back to my house. It's more than 3 years now he did not contact her but at the same time he is not giving her divorce. We asked so many times but he always refused it. Now we have another man who wanted her to get married to him but he is not giving divorce. We can't go to court because of some legal issues. So in that case what does Islam say about women in this situation?

Q: I feel as if my husband is too strict with me. Before he wasn't like this when we got married but now he stops me from a lot of things. I've never had to live a life with so many restrictions. It's very hard but I listen to my husband in everything. But nowadays I just feel like running away from everything. I have locked up everything inside me and I feel trapped. I can't go anywhere. He has become too Islamic. I just don't know what to do. I'm sad all the time and depressed. None of my relatives even meet us now because of how he has become. He has changed too much in such short time and I haven't adjusted to all this yet.

Q: I am married and have kids. Through out my marriage I had a lot of problems. I stayed because of my kids. The issues were mainly my wife is listening to her brothers and parents who have just become rich and I still belongs to the middle class. She just argued on everything and when she is at her parents home she lies about me (means doing Gheebat in indirect ways). She goes with her parents on outings without me. I clearly told her that try to live happily with the salary I earn and don't keep your eyes on your brothers money. But then she started arguing by saying that my brother is giving me money and taking me out and you have to live alone if you cannot spent for me and for yourself. (If I to her as Greedy, I would be correct). She even shouts in front of me and doesn't even let me touch her as for marital intercourse or for anything and just saying that you are having just lust for sex, but cannot fulfil my other dressing and so on. She even prays 5 times a day and reads Qur'an also. Will it be acceptable by Allah Ta'ala in this situation? Please help and also advise that what should i do?

Q: Its almost going to be two years of my marriage. I have a kid who's mashallah going to be 3 months. I don't know what is wrong with me and my husband. We have lots of arguments and lots of fights for useless reasons. Where I try to make him understand certain things, he does not listen and things I am taunting him. In result we stop talking to each other for a week. This happens every two weeks. Please advice what has to be done.

Q: My Husband's mother is a non Muslim and lives as a lesbian. I don't want to be seen in the road with her and do not like going there, nor do I want to send my daughter. My husband thinks I don't like his mother but it's the fact that her lifestyle is disgusting and I am trying to protect my daughter from this. Am I wrong in not wanting to be associated with her and don't allow my daughter to go there without my husband or myself?

Q: Me and my wife had been married for 5 years. We have two kids. She is a very caring and loving wife, but due to some unwanted silly reasons, she can't accept my family members and wants us to stay away from them. We have a fight between us most of the time for this reason that she wants us to get separated from my family. Now she is even asking for divorce if I can't stay with her accepting the fact to exclude my family members from our life. My father, mother, brothers and sister hadn't done anything to harm her, but still she doesn't understand. Moreover I feel like she is trying to follow her mother, who has done the same thing with her father's family. But since her father was silent and listening to her mothers decision all the time he accepted it. But I am not able to accept this method of breaking relations. Kindly do let me know, what shall I do. Should I continue with her and break my family relation or accept her request for divorce?

Q: I got a sexual infection. I went to the doctor, the doctor said it was only sexually transmitted disease. I was infected by my husband but from where did my husband become infected. Allah ka shukar hai there is no big problem to cover the disease but I am confused about what am I to do with my husband? He is very nice with me and the kids but the fact is he cheated me. Please guide me.

Q: My husband refuses to find a job and has not been working for the last 2 years. He spends his days sleeping and watching TV. He also has a tendency to lie about everything and incurs debts behind my back. Is this a valid reason for talaaq?