A Muslim wife
Q: I am a revert muslimah and have recently married a Muslim man. We have spoken on occasion and he has outlined what he would like in a wife. I would like clarification on a few of the things he has said:
1. As a wife I have to stay at home and make sure the house is clean and do all of the cooking etc and should not venture out of the house without my husband.
2. During a disagreement I am to remain silent and agree with my husband no matter how I feel.
3. I am not allowed to advise him if I feel what he is doing is wrong/haraam.
4. I am not allowed to ask for any money for bills/food etc.
5. I should not ask where he is if he is out late.
6. I should stay awake until my husband comes home and then wake early to clean and make his breakfast.
7. I should never make a complaint to him about anything, and lastly
8. I am to keep all my thoughts and feelings to myself.
I would really like clarification if what he's asking is typical of a Muslim wife and if I must follow these rules, if so I will do my best. And if these rules are not right is there any way I can speak to my husband about this? Should I remain quiet and suffer in silence to keep my husband happy?
A: Some of these points are not right. If you are already in the marriage then your husband needs to refer to some reliable experienced aalim who can advise him correctly.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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