Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Making a temporary nikaah

Q: If a person takes permission from a Christian prostitute to perform nikaah with her, will the nikaah be valid if he then performs the nikaah in the presence of two male Muslim witnesses. 

I fully understand that a person should not be doing this. I want to know whether the nikaah will be valid or not, not whether it is permissible to do so or not or whether one should do so or not. The result of the nikaah being valid is that a person will not be committing zina.

Chatting with one's potential spouse before nikaah

Q: Some things are decreed by Allah in which a person has no choice like death and the time of death, but in the case of marriage, a person has a choice in whom he/she chooses as a spouse. Since the person we choose to marry is one of the things which is not predestined/not predetermined by Allah (not to be confused with unknown to Allah for He certainly knows who we will choose with our free will), why are we limiting ourselves by not engaging and chatting to non-mahrams within limits? 

I would have definitely not met and subsequently not married my now spouse had we not engaged and chat to each other. So since the person we marry is not influenced by Allah and is 100% all down to our choosing, why can't we date and interact with people with the intention of nikaah? This is certainly taking means and not being passive.

Husband seeing to the medical expenses of his wife

Q: What we know as Muslims that according to shariah man is responsible for the economic needs of his wife, but I have heard that economic responsibilities as per shariah do not include wife’s medical expenses. 

If such is the case, when in an Islamic family setup a woman is responsible to manage the house and look after her children she will have no time to earn her own income. Knowing about these circumstances when woman has no independent income because she has no employment as she was looking after the house which she is expected to do as a Muslim woman then why isn’t her husband obligated to finance her medical needs?

Boy expecting his wife to speak to non mahrams

Q: I would like some guidance, recently a boy came to see my 18 year old daughter. The boy seems to be interested but my daughter says that she does not feel positive towards it. Her main concern is that he said that he expects her to speak to his brother and brother in law. She has been in niqab since becoming baligh and is not happy about this. 

Other than this, he comes from a good deeni, tableeghi family; he has good akhlaaq and ticks all the other boxes. Should I encourage her to seriously consider the proposal or should I let it go?

Marrying one's milk sister

Q: I wanted to marry a girl but later they told me that her mother breastfed me once when I was less than one year. I researched about it and according to my knowledge in Quran it is forbidden to marry but there is no evidence of how many times of breastfeeding is required. From hadith I found that there is one hadith from Hazrat Aaisha (radhiyallahu anha) which states that five breastfeeding is required to make it haram. Please guide me regarding this issue.