What qualities should one look for in the person one wishes to get married to

Q: I am a girl of 33 years old and not yet married. I always get many marriage proposals and I have never accept anyone. If I would get married tomorrow that is easy but the problem is that most of people are experiment people, means that unfortunately they have done many things before marriage and that is for me not possible to marry someone like that. I feel we are so different, but today it is very difficult to find that person, even impossible. I am lost, I don't know what should I do. I am afraid that after marriage I feel bad living with this person. Could you please advices me and share with me your valuable opinion.

A: When choosing a life partner, the Hadith teaches us that apart from basing one's choice on beauty and good looks, one should look at the level of Deen in the person one wishes to marry. If one finds the person to be from a pious family and the person also is pious, possessing good character and committed to Deen and one finds the person to be compatible to one in other aspects, then one should marry such a person. Hence if you receive a proposal of this type and your parents are happy to get you married to the person, then you should accept the proposal and get married.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)