Girl consulting her parents with regards to nikaah

Q: Girl's choice in marriage is final though violating other family and status equality as given in fiqh of marriage. Allah orders children not to cause grievous hurt to the heart of parents. Allah says, he does not delay punishment to such children in this very world. So how can such marriages be happy? Is not the marriage with the approval of both the girl and her parents more meritorious and rewarding? And are parents entitled to say to the girl that if she's bent upon her own choice, she should do it without parents taking any part in it as they aren't accepting her choice?

A: Yes, it is more rewarding and meritorious.

If the parents are saying this for valid reasons then this is not wrong. However, generally in these types of cases it is the parents that are to be blamed, for the parents allow the girl that free type of life. They are not conscious of purdah and her movements, and allow her to go to school and then when she comes up with this type of decision  the parents wish to object. It will appear as though their greater concern is their reputation and not deen and good values.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)