Proposing for a girl

Submitted by admin on Sat, 2016-12-03 07:03

Q: I've heard that premarital relationships are haraam, but I'm not sure to what extent am I supposed to keep my distance from this girl I am in love with. My friend keeps telling me to express my feelings to her, but as far as I've learned, I'm supposed to go to the girl's father to ask for her hand in marriage. I don't want to involve our families and make it hard for her to reject me, so I was wondering if it would be halaal to just tell her that I like her and wish to marry her? And then we would go to her father if she accepts my proposal.

A: This is also incorrect. You should rather speak to her father directly.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

Category:

Nikaah & Marriage Issues›Customary practices

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speaking to non-mahrams

father of the girl

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