How to look for a spouse


1. What is the correct way to find a man or a woman for marriage, according to the Sunnah?

2.  Who can visit their houses (of bride-to-be or groom-to-be)?

3. What are the qualities that are given more importance in them?

4. Is engagement function is allowed in Islam (that is exchanging ring)?

5. Is it prohibited in Islam to have oral sex?


1. The girl's elders should find out about the boy and similarly the other way around.

2. The people who are close to the families.

3. Deen and noble character.

4. There is no basis for an engagement function.

5. This is disgusting sick behaviour.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)