Need to get married but cannot due to my mothers overbearing ways

Q: I am a devoted Muslim and do my best to follow the rgiht path with my parents. However despite loving my mother and dedicating years of my life trying to keep her company and happy I find now that I am struggling to cope with her overbearing ways. She hates that I want to get a job or have a friend to the extent that she asks me not to go out to see anyone unless she is also involved. I am getting old and want to get married and have a life but with her demands on me that will never happen. I feel that the stress is taking a toll on my mental and physical health and am getting very low. I don't want to upset her though but now I feel she has made me sacrifice my own life for her and that is not right. What can I do?


A: You should explain to your mother that you have the need to get married. The Hadith explains that once a boy or girl reach marriageable age, then they should not delay in fulfilling the Sunnah of Nikaah. The outcome of delaying in fulfilling this Shar'iee need  is that one will fall into sin and displease Allah Ta'ala. 

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

عن أبي هريرة قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم إذا خطب إليكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه إلا تفعلوا تكن فتنة في الأرض وفساد عريض  (ترمذي #1084)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)