Chatting to non-mahrams on the internet
Q: There is a internet friend (married) of mine. We chat, we laugh me mock each other and that’s it, the conversation contains the positive content, we discuss about the things around, the current issues, each other's families. So this is forbidden also?
A: It is forbidden (haraam) in Islaam for a strange man to have any type of contact with a strange woman regardless of whether the contact is verbal or physical (meeting).Furthermore for one to be in contact with someone who is married is even more serious. The Hadith clearly explains that whenever a na mahram male and female are in seclusion then the third person present is shaytaan. Shaytaan misleads a person in different ways. At the beginning, shaytaan engages him/her in a “decent conversation”, thereafter the relationship progresses till the point where one commits the ultimate sin.
عن أبي سعيد الخدري عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إن الدنيا حلوة خضرة وإن الله مستخلفكم فيها فينظر كيف تعملون فاتقوا الدنيا واتقوا النساء فإن أول فتنة بنى إسرائيل كانت في النساء. (مسلم 2/353)
عن ابن عمر قال : خطبنا عمر بالجابية فقال يا أيها الناس إني قمت فيكم كمقام رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم فينا فقال أوصيكم بأصحابي ثم الذين يلونهم ثم الذين يلونهم ثم يفشوا الكذب حتى يحلف الرجل ولا يستحلف ويشهد الشاهد ولا يستشهد ألا لا يخلون رجل بامرأة إلا كان ثالثهما الشيطان عليكم بالجماعة وإياكم والفرقة فإن الشيطان مع الواحد وهو من الاثنين أبعد من أراد بحبوحة الجنة فيلزم الجماعة من سرته حسنته وساءته سيئته فذلك المؤمن. (ترمذي 2/39)
Q: But if once in a blue moon if we ask for their well being or just to know the life and death matters for e.g. Hi how are you all? Just this nothing else.
A: This is also impermissible. It appears in the Hadith that once Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) questioned the Sahaabah (Radiallahu Anhum) as to what was the most beneficial thing for women (i.e. the thing most beloved in the sight of Allah Ta’aala and most safeguarding for their deen). None of the Sahaabah had given any answer to Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) in that gathering. When Ali (Radiallahu Anhu) returned home and informed Fatima (Radiallahu Anha) of the question Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) posed to the Sahaabah, she spontaneously answered “the thing most beneficial for women and most beloved in the sight of Allah Ta’aala in safeguarding their deen is that they do not have any contact with men (looking, meeting etc.) and that men do not have any contact with them.” When Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) was informed of the response of Fatima (Radiallahu Anha), Nabi (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Fatima is part of me.”
عن علي رضي الله عنه أنه كان عند رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال أي شيء خير للمرأة فسكتوا فلما رجعت قلت لفاطمة أي شيء خير للنساء قالت ألا يراهن الرجال فذكرت ذلك للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال إنما فاطمة بضعة مني رضي الله عنها (مسند البزار رقم 526)
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