Respect for the husband

Q: Due to this hadith and seemingly degrading hadiths on women, I'm having doubts and resentments towards men. Can women decide to never be married? The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said: “It is not right for any human being to prostrate to another; if it were right for one human being to prostrate to another, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands because of the great rights that they have over them. By the One in Whose hand is my soul, if a man were covered from head to foot with weeping sores oozing pus, and his wife were to come to him and lick his sores (to clean them), this would not fulfil the rights he has over her.’”

It's been days and I can't get over it. Explain this. If marriage means this,  I don't know what to think or say. These hadiths really distress me that much. Not only I have my own problems; now I have to read these hadiths which really discourage and sadden me.

A: There is no need to dislike men. In fact you need to respect men. This is the position that Allah has given to them. Hence, you respect them on account of the respect that Allah has accorded to them. It will then amount to respecting Allah.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)