Husband not happy with wife driving and leaving the house

Q: I am in a dilemma. The scenario is as such. I am newly married. My wife teaches in a masjid full time Hifz and drives there and back home. She is not living with me at the moment. She will start living with me at the end of April. I disapprove of this teaching in the masjid and the driving.

The thing is my wife said she wants to continue teaching and driving back and forth. She says that she will be bored in the day and wants to keep herself busy. I totally disagree and feel she can do her own dor and teach at home.

My dad gives me mushwara to let her drive and work in the masjid and so does her father until we, inshaAllah have a child.

I feel this totally negates the shariah. I am very sad at the moment and feel like crying because they make me feel like I'm stopping her from something good. I don't want her to work or drive. What is your advice on how I should proceed in this matter?

A: Your thinking is right. I suggest that you explain to her with respect, understanding and mahabbat. Don't force your way and don't spoil the house if they don't have the level of understanding. Perhaps immediately you could help her by finding some students to learn from her in the house.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)