Seeking forgiveness from abortion

Q: A widowee man of 50 year old marries a unmarried woman of 40 years in 2010. After marriage with in 2 months woman gets pregnant. Due to age and other circumstances man request woman to abort the pregnancy. Thereafter 3-4 months tablets were taken to avoid pregnancy. But after that woman did not conceived. They lived together with adjustment with intermittent dispute. Performed Haj in 2013 and Umrah in 2017. Since Sept 2017 both husband and wife are staying separate from each other and heading for divorce. Now as per Islam man had done major sin of Allah by aborting in 2010. Man's questions are:

1. Before divorcing do it is mandatory/compulsory for him to get forgiveness from wife for his requested abortion in 2010?

2. Can wife demand any monetary compensation against his sin of not giving her rights to become mother?

3. Do man will not be forgiven by Allah after death if wife do not forgive for his sin of abortion?


1. Each person is respopnsible for his own crime. The one that encourages wrong has a double load of sin for encouraging the wrong and the one who commits the sin has a single load for committing the wrong.

2. This is her own doing. It was her stupidity and it was her wrong. It is not right to obey any person in a matter that amounts to the disobedience of Allah Ta`ala.

3. Both need to make taubah independently.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)