Separating from a Qaadiyani husband
Q: I was married 6 years ago and knew that my husband belongs to Qadiani sect but due to lack of knowledge of their belief, I agreed for this proposal. After marriage they started taking me to their jamaat and majlis on festivals for salah. However, last year I came to know about their belief and decided to separate from him.
I left him and stayed with my parents for 2 months but then my husband claimed that he doesn't believe in Mirza Ghulam Ahmed and he is ahle sunnah. My parents strictly told him not to take me to their jamaat or majlis and he promised neither he will attend their majlis nor he will force me to go. But after coming back to him, he and his mother again forced me to go to their mosque, pray Eid salah with them and meet their relatives which I negelcted, resulting my husband got angry and didn't pray eid salah, he even left home on EID.
I am always forced to meet their people and maintain relationship with them and when I neglect to meet them, he asks me not to meet my people as well, and he stopped meeting my family members. I still have doubt that he lied to me to save our marriage, as when his mother talks about their belief, he listens to her and doesn't utter a single word.
He is neither regular in salah, nor he fasts, nor he follows Sunnah. He even doesn't let me cover my face when I go out with him, if I go to learn Quran or Arabic, he doubts me.
I am in a big dilemma if I took the right decision to come back to him or not. It's been more than 6 months that I am seeing warning messages in dream as I am a part of Kufr and I will be punished. Even after coming back to him, I dreamt that Allah SWT has guided me but I neglected so I will be punished now.
If I ask him for Khula, he cries badly that he loves me more than anything and I am ditching him. I feel guilty at that point of time that I am spoiling his life, he is under stress because of this.
We don't have any relation as well since long, as I feel myself a sinner, a fornicator. I always think what if this marriage is void and I am with him, I might become an adulterer.
Please advice me, what shall I do? If I leave him and he is hurt, will I be a sinner in the eyes of Allah SWT for ditching him? I do Istikhara and I get a negative feeling of being with these people, even in Quran, related verses keep coming infront of me, even if I read something online such topics, vidoes come infront of me as Allah is continuously guiding me and I am neglecting it.
A: Qaadiyaanis are not Muslims. They believe in the prophethood of Ghulaam Ahmad Qaadiyaani whereas the Quraan declares that Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) is the final Nabi and that there is no nabi to come after him. The one who holds such beliefs is not a Muslim but rather a kaafir. If you stay with him you will be perpetually staying in zina. Immediately leave him and make tawbah to Allah Ta'ala. Your relationship with Allah Ta'ala and protecting your deen is more important than anything in the world. You do not have to ask him for khula or for a divorce as your nikaah with him was not valid.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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