Remaining silent in order to avoid fights

Q: I would like to know the ruling on remaining silent to avoid conflict with family members and my mother.

1. Whenever I say anything it's always used against me so I would like to know if I remain silent and just greet would that be permissible?

2. My mother curses me while angry and I don't want this to happen. Please advice.

3. My mother always questions why I go for Umrah because of 1 bad character trait which I have. Which is remaining silent when angry... her anger stems whenever I ask her to join me for Umrah. I thought that taking one's parent for Umrah is meritorious... Am I wrong in requesting this? Please advice on duas for family unity.


1. Yes, it is permissible.

2. Read durood shareef.

3. When she feels upset then don't request her. However, inform her, take her permission and take her duas, and also ask her if you could be of any assistance when you are in umrah.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)