Women's freedom

Q: How did Islaam free the woman? I know about the whole inheritance thing right to divorce and all that. But I feel that saying Islaam freed the women is wrong because it didn’t free us. Its not freedom when your life and life decisions are controlled with your spouse or men in your family. How is that freedom? Like, I am not talking about the haraam freedom and all that. Sometimes I just wish for peace of mind sitting in a cafe that is 7 minutes away but I am not allowed to go unless my spouse feels like I can? While he can go wherever he wants whenever he wants and I am not even allowed to question him. Honestly speaking, I love my Deen so much but recently men make me get disappointed in some parts of it.

A: In this world, no person is free. From birth, he is controlled by his parents, then by his school and madrasah. Thereafter, by his work and employment and thereafter he is also tied by the laws of the government. Then he is not free to live as he wants; his death is controlled again. In some areas, women have an additional right, like they must be supported by their parents until they are married and supported again by their families, brothers, etc. in the case of divorce and being widowed, whereas men do not have these privileges. They have a relaxation in salaah as well in the days of their menstruation.

By and large, men and women both are controlled. These types of feelings are not natural. Like we have unfortunately gays, etc. whereas this is not a natural and normal lifestyle. On account of the abundance of this type of filth we have such problems appearing. Who can say that alcohol has got no good. In spite of its benefits, yet we are commanded not to touch it at all. So the obvious reason is that their harms are greater than the good, and therefore it is prohibited. In the recent lockdown, the government was constrained to extend the ban on alcohol because the moment they raised the ban they discovered that the hospitals were filled with these types of cases. Hence, the shariah looks at our broader interests, it does not look at our little naive and short-sighted minds when it legislates a command.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)