Spouses not getting along or spending time together

Q: If the husband only brings up the past on to when the wife used to fight with him and for what, (normal daily fights, nothing big) which made him the person he is, he should forgive her and move on but he chooses to live in the past and think that way which is affecting their present and future married life. The husband and wife do not get along at all due to not spending time together or doing anything with each other. Please advise.

A: They should both seek the advice of a pious, experienced aalim in their community and ask him to assist them in clearing their problems. Further, they should start off a daily program of taleem of Fazaa'ile-e-A`maal, Fazaa'il-e-Sadaqaat, Seeratul Mustafa and Bahishti Zewar.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)