Believing that the birth of someone is a cause of ill fortune

Q: I am 22 years old. From my childhood until this moment, my father could not get a house. My parents get up for tahajjud and make prayers etc. But we are not getting an answer for a house. What would be the reason?

My father had told me long before that it is because of my birth that they could not achieve anything. Could that be the reason?

I have often noticed that I am a person who gets punished on the spot for doing wrong, is it because Allah doesn't like me?

It is said that Allah shows good dreams and Shaythan shows bad dreams. I my 22 years and I haven't ever seen a good dream, rather I have seen many weird and filthy dreams that is even nauseating to talk about. Is it because Allah doesn't love me?

How do I know if Allah likes me. I have committed a sin to my parents, i.e. I thought they were doing wrong and made them cry. I felt that they were wrong but it was only because I couldn't understand them. Is there any way that I can repent?

A: This is absolutely wrong. In fact it is sinful to think like this. This is a baseless kuffaar mentality. All should make istighfar and beg Allah Ta`ala's forgiveness for this great wrong that you have got yourselves in. A birth is not a cause of ill fortune. This is likened to a Hindu superstitious belief.

Don't ever consider these types of things as punishments. Many a time it is a relief and you cannot fully comprehend it. Therefore, you believe it to be a punishment.

Try your best to please them, make dua for them and be on their side. Support and assist them with love and respect. Insha Allah, Alalh will count you as an obedient child.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)