Getting married without one's parents consent if one fears falling into sin
Q: A person asked his parents to let him get married but his parents refused him even though that person was earning good and has enough money to afford all the expenses. That person was in fear of committing adultery. He asked his parents many times and even one day he told his parents the reason why he wanted to get married. His main reason of getting married was to stay away from haraam but his parents ignored him. He was very upset as his parents refused him. He contacted a few women in order to commit a sin but he immediately realized that he was about to make a huge mistake in his life and he repented and then refrained from committing such an act. He didn't committed zina. He stood steadfast and kept remembering Allah Almighty. He wanted to hide his sins and he wanted to confess only in front of Allah Almighty. What to do if the authority asks him as he didn't committed adultery physically? He's ashamed of talking to such women by text messages and he realized that it is a sin. He has already repented from it. What are the rulings of Islam as there was a talk of committing a sin but refrained and didn't committed it physically?
A: When he has reached a point where he is afraid of falling into haraam then it becomes compulsory for him to make nikaah. And for things that are compulsory and obligatory you do not need the parents' consent, just as you do not need their consent to perform fardh salaah.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
قال عبد الله كنا مع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم شبابا لا نجد شيئا فقال لنا رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر و أحصن للفرج و من لم يستطع فعليه بالصوم فإنه له وجاء (صحيح البخاري، الرقم: 5066)
النكاح حالة الاعتدال سنة مؤكدة مرغوبة وحالة التوقان واجب (المختار لابن مودود الحنفي 3/ 82)
عن علي أن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بعث جيشا و أمّر عليهم رجلا فأوقد نارا فقال ادخلوها فأرادوا أن يدخلوها فقال آخرون إنما فررنا منها فذكروا للنبي (صلى الله عليه وسلم) فقال للذين أرادوا أن يدخلوها لو دخلوها لم يزالوا فيها إلى يوم القيامة و قال للآخرين لا طاعة في معصية الله إنما الطاعة في المعروف (صحيح البخاري الرقم: 7257)
عن النواس بن سمعان قال قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم لا طاعة لمخلوق في معصية الخالق (شرح السنة)
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