Speaking to a non-mahram

Q: I have come across a sister who is Alhamdullilah very nice and has good knowledge about Islam and even practices a lot. She loves me a lot and I too love her for the sake of Allah. I met her 4 months ago. But now the problem I am having is that she talks too much and I get irritated.

Everyday she calls me and talks for 2 hours. Each and every day she calls. If I am busy and I can't receive the phone she will continously call 15 to 20 times. I am quite an introvert person and I dont like to talk much. She says that I have to be an extrovert to call people to Islam. I Have to be open and talk to people.

I love her but this is something that is really irritating me a lot. She usually talks about Islam and Hadith but sometimes too much talking also leads to gossip and useless talks. I am not able to understand how to get rid of this. Can you help me from any hadaith or Quran which I can relate to her.

Is it not wrong to talk so much whether its useless or about Deen. I can't explain how much its irritating me. Should I cut off with her? If I switch off my phone she calls my brother.

A: It is not permissible for a non mahram male and female to have any type of contact among themselves. The hadith explains that when a non mahram male and female are in seclusion, then the third person present is Shaitaan. Hence, being in close contact in this manner where she phones you and speaks to you is not permissible. This in itself is a sin and also leads to many other sins. Similarly, the love you have for her in your heart is haraam love. Immediately break off this relationship and sincerely repent to Allah Ta'ala for getting involved in this sin.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)