Questions related to intimacy
Q: I have a few personal questions regarding a halaal husband and wife that are in Nikaah.
1. When does ghusal actually become fardh, when the male private part touches - like rubs against the female private part between her legs WITHOUT going into the female private part, or when the male private actually enters the female private part?
2. How does one remove semen from a bed sheet or duvet cover?
3. How does one remove madhi (before semen) from a bed sheet or duvet cover?
4. Is kissing one's wife or husband's private parts haraam?
5. What age should a wife and husband stop allowing their child to see them without clothes, example baby is in the bath and one parent is in the shower?
6. Does a woman need a fardh ghusal if she has a wet dream?
7. If the husband puts his finger inside the wife's private part, does the woman need a ghusal if she does not orgasm?
8. If one touches his wifes private part and his hand becomes slightly moist and he touches the blanket, is the blanket napaak?
9. If madhi (before semen) touches a blanket does it become napaak?
10. If one does not realize that semen or madhi touched something like the bedsheet then after a few hours or even a day sees a dried stain what should he do?
A:
1. Ghusl is compulsory when there is insertion of the male private part.
2. Wash the area that is soiled until all the impurity is removed.
3. As above. If it cannot be seen then wash the soiled area thrice and each time squeeze it until all the water drips out.
4. This is disgusting. It is the behaviour of a sick person.
5. Etiquette requires that the child should not see the parents undressed, irrespective of the child's age, as the child has a photographic mind. He will grasp very swiftly whatever he sees or hears. Later on when you see a problem in his behaviour you may then wonder where this is coming from. Understand that it was your own doing which the child has emulated.
6. Yes, if there was any discharge with the dream.
7. No.
8. If the moisture passed on to the blanket then the blanket will be napaak.
9. Yes.
10. When he sees it he must wash it.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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