Adoption

Q: I have a question regarding milk parents. 

I was conceived by my biological parents with the intention of being adopted by my aunty (fathers sister) as she hadn’t had any children with her husband for 11 years. 

When I was born, I was adopted and grew up in another city with my (new) milk parents. From small I was told about my adoption so it wasn’t something shocking to me. 

I grew up knowing my siblings and visiting my biological parents often, but my milk parents were like my real/main parents and my biological were like my aunty and uncle. 

Now that I’m older and married and my siblings are also older and married and I’m staying in the town I grew up with my biological parents. I hadn’t been there as much and made the khidmat owed to my biological parents. 

My biological parents said multiple times that I should treat my milk parents as my real ones and that they (the biological ones) hold no haq over me. I asked my shaikh what to do and he says that shariah is above everything and that their words or emotions don’t govern what the actual rights to them are. 

So my question is who holds more right over me, the milk parents who raised me or the biological parents who bore me? 

When it comes to khidmat or instruction, who holds more weight? 

And lastly, if they excuse me from khidmat what does it mean?

Q: I was the youngest of my 6 brothers and 2 sisters. My chacha and chachi didn't have a child of their own so they adopted me. The name on my ID card is not of my original father. Is this fine or should I change the name on my ID?

Q: My uncle in law adopted my brother at the time of my brother's birth, and my uncle's wife breastfed him. Can my uncle be my brother's real father?

In my brother's nikah, if my uncle in law does not declare that he is the father, but the girl knows who the real father of the boy is, is the nikah correct?

Can my uncle in law write his name as the father of my brother?

Q:

1. My sister in law (wife sister) is in the 7th month of pregnancy. Her husband has divorced her. She wants to abort the child. Is this permissible or not?

2. Can I adopt the child?

Q: Is it okay to adopt a child (a baby girl) from a poor single mother (the father died) who has other kids as well? She is not able to financially provide for the family well.

I understand the mahram and non-mahram restrictions.

Also, I know that we cannot change the father and family lineage of the adopted child. Won't it be a sin for me and my wife that we are separating a child from her siblings and mother as we live in a different continent?

Q: We are Muslims and a childless couple. We adopted a baby girl and we don't know about her parentage. We want to give her our name and identity and raise her as our own, without telling her that she was adopted. We don't know who are her parents. Is this allowed?

Q: Can a person adopt orphans from poor countries to give them a new life? Is it good for one to adopt orphans or should one not adopt them?

Q: I have been divorced for 2 years and now I dont have any feelings to get married again. I have this thought in my mind that I should adopt an orphan baby girl and raise her as my daughter fulfilling all her needs and getting her married when she grows up. Can you please guide me on if this would be allowed in Islam? What would be my reward for adopting a girl and raise her and what would be the gunah of not marrying?

Q: We are married for 5 years now but we still dont have any children. We want to adopt a newly born baby, please help us.

Q: I am a second wife currently pregnant and my husband and his parents are emotionally and verbally abusing me. His first marriage is in community of property leaving all of his assets to his first wife while mine was just a nikaah and he has only provided a house for me. He has always falsely accused me of being unfaithful when I gave him no reason to believe so. He says that the child I'm carrying is not his. I am very hurt and I have left my home and don't want to go back to him. Can I register my child using my surname because of the situation that I'm in? He has also told me that he will be selling my house. He left nothing for me and our unborn child while his first family lives a cosy lavish life. Please advise me.