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Pareshaani owr takleef

Q: Aap hamry liye istikhara khary hmry ghr bht pareshani din ba din hm py koi na koi takleef rehti hn. Hum log qatar mn rehty hn, mery abu ki job kahtam ho gai hn, hmara pakistan mn jitni bhi zameeny maal ta sb hmry chacha ny qabza kr liya hn. Meri behn ki shadi hvi hn. Wahan k logo ny bht tang kia hn uska husband roz marta rehta hn...hm log yahan doha sy jana chahty hn lakin rasta nh hn takellfo ny hmy gher rakha hn plzz ap istikhara kr k bataye k hm knsa rasta ikhtiyar kery ..jazakallah!

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Being unsatisfied with one's wife

Q: I am a new Muslim about 3 years. I married 10 months ago. My wife is ugly, every time she becomes ill and she is having high tempreture, her face is full with pimples. When I saw her at night, the day before marriage, I was unable to recognize because her face was covered with niqaab and I was very shy. 

Sheikh, she is very religious, always prays Tahajud, and always wearing niqaab. She loves me very much. She is 100 % satisfied with me and very happy. But sheikh I am not satisfied with her. I am acting as if I like her very much, but in fact I am unhappy. I am trying to kill my heart but cant. I read some hadith such as: 

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah (RA) said: Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one of her characteristics, he may be pleased with another.” 

Abu Hurairah (RA) narrated that Allah’s Messenger (PBUH) said, “The most complete of the believers in faith is the one with the best character among them. And the best of you are those who are best to your women.” 

I never had relationship with women after and before Islam. First time I had relations was with my wife. I don't have any intention to marry another. All my family are still not Muslim. My family doesn’t know about my marriage. 

Sheikh, I had a dream about wife but after marriage it was broken. Our relation is very good, she is happy but all I know is that I am only acting for the sake of Allah. I don’t want to make her disappointed. My question is:

1. I don’t like her but she don’t know about that , I used to lie about that, I am trying to make her happy whatever. Is it Haraam to act like
that?

2. How to become happy? What should I do?

3. Any especial duaa?

I hope you will understand.

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Pondering over what one wishes to present before speaking

Q: I become very nervous when I am asked a question. Please help.

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Premarital relationship

Q: I was in love with a girl, she was Christian. But the relationship wasn't for long. Her ex came back in her life and she was dating both of us at the same time. I was not aware of it. I was so much in love with her. And when she broke up my trust, I lost trust in girls and relationship. I'm 28 years old now and single. I'm not mentally prepared to get married or when its comes to get involved with someone (pure relationship with Islamic guidelines) that hardly stand for few days and I start facing problems trusting that girl. Need your real help. Please guide me.

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Feeling that one is a Munaafiq

Q: I am not a true Muslim. I try to pray 5 time a day but most of the time I don't pray esha salaah. I read many Islamic books and sometimes I tell the people many good things about Islam but then I think that I am munafiq. I am not following Islam properly then why should I teach the people? Am I right or I am a munafiq?

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Waswasas

Q: I request your clarification/advice on the following. 

  1. How do you deal with Waswasa (whispers of Shaitan/Jinn) which continually disturb a person during Wudu and Salaah/Recitation of Qur'an and other daily activities ?
  2. It is recorded in Sahih Hadith Nasa'i 10500 and Abu Dawood 5113, Narrated by Abu Huraira RA that Rasul Allah Sallallaahu Alaihiwa Sallam declared such Waswasa to be Outright ​Eemaan, when the Sahaaba Radhi Allahu Anhum sought clarification from Rasul Allah Sallallaahu Alaihiwa Sallam about it. Could this Waswasa also mean to be so?
  3. Could this Waswasa be due to a person being affected by Sihr(sorcery)? If so, how can one differentiate it from being Outright Eemaan mentioned in point no 2?
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Marrying when there is a need

Q: Is legal love marriage allowed which means without looking talking exposing one another. I (happen to be a pious unmarried male of 28) got information from a brother of a very reputed pious divorced women of 30 that she wants to marry me and if I do not marry her she will remain unmarried but my family will accept it for many reasons. She also said that if my family will not accept it then I will have to marry her secretly then she will remain in her house and I will remain in my house. And Allah made me too generous that I do not want to hurt anyones feelings so naturally I am also feeling love for her. So what should I do now?

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Earning a halaal income

Q: There is a genuine problem and for that I need a genuine advice. My father separated from my mother when I was just 5. Since then my mother had been there to support me. Now this is the time I should support her as this is my sole responsibility. Since I have completed my BBA in finance, I am getting offers from some banks but I am not willing to do job there because I got involved in Islam few months back. Before that I was not in to it in any way. There is no source of income as I just do free lancing and everyone is pressurising me to do job where I have only one option for doing a job i.e. in bank since I have applied at different places but the qualification requirement is MBA which I will be starting in a month or so. My mother, sister and everyone linked to us taunts me for not paying attention to such ongoing circumstances of my family. I am just worried if my mother could get some heart problem for getting tensed on not supporting her. However I have tried to explain her several times that working in a conventional bank is not an appropriate thing to do. But no body is listening to me. Please assist me for what should I do. However I had to do my job for sometime like for an year to gain some work experience so that I can get a better and halal job after gaining some experience. I hope you will assist me for no body is there to provide me a genuine answer. Jazak Allah

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Respect for parents

Q: My father gave third and final divorce to my mother about two months ago. The reason i am writing to you is that I want to know that being kids did we do anything to initiate the divorce? My parents were married for 29 years ..He gave first divorce to he about 27 years ago and made rujoo after that. Meanwhile while we were growing up..we never had mental peace at home with our parents quarrelling over very minor issues most of the time...where I saw that the fault mostly was 80% my fathers and 20% mother....at times it would be 50%/50% both..but very rare. My father is a very short tempered person and he cannot take a word against his actions..When we were young it was hard to see parents fight ..where father used abusive language and even beated mother badly in front of us.. It is natural for kids to have a soft corner for their mother when she is weak and I never heard her use any bad words for my father even during fights. She always taught us not to misbehave with father because of her as he is our father and he fulfilled every responsibility towards us as a father. But it was exactly opposite for our father.. he use to say that she is brain washing her kids and she is planning against him with us. The reason for all the negativity in his mind is I think because he doesn't say his prayers and that too blames my mother for it..that she says her prayers to show the world that she is a very pious lady and I don't pray because I am what I am I don't need to be a hypocrite to show the world ..its between me and my God. He even use to say that she will go to hell regardless of all the praying because her husband is not happy from her.

Inshort I went to meet my parents after two years and I was going through a postpartum depression after my second son's birth. I went home and on third day my father started some regular discussion. His regular discussions mostly end up with blaming mother and her family.  etc etc.. So this time from the start I told him that please this time I beg you don't start with me. I am here for some relax time. I wont listen to you or mother about your daily matters. Let me have some peace. I am going trough depression already. He instead of understanding started blaming me for misbehaving infront of him and said that my mother is a whore and a slut. She didnt teach her kids how to speak infront of parents...he used very bad language for my mother..I  said..we were kids before but now dont use such words for our mother infront of us. She is respectable for us. He was furious and said I am your father how dare you say this. I will divorce youur mother. I said that don't include divorce. Its not a joke...he got up and said..You will teach me?? he poinnted at my mother and said..i divorce you...and then said to me..i have to divorce your mother but I will pull the trigger on your shoulders.. this was the second divorce.. he said many things to me..which a father shouldn't say to his married daughter and said that you are responsible for this divorce. I came back to my home after that. Two months ago he had a fight with my mother that why she didn't give meal to his brother and a carpenter..( she says she asked him but he refused as they had to go to a wedding..otherwise she always treats the guest very well with making food and all).. he was fighting and again used very bad language for her infront of my brother who is 27. He said to my father not to use such words and discuss in a normal manner what you have to.he got more angry at this..my brother just took a side for her that she always cooks good for everyone who comes at our home and I am witness to that....and not to use bad language for her now .. he is young and he said that next time mother dont cook anything for the carpenters who are coming to our place ..just give them some money so they can eat from outside..its not your responsibility..My father said to him that who are you to decide this in my home..and started abusing both of them..and divorced my mother again ..and said that she didn't teach her kids to behave in front of her father.. he said the blame of this divorce is on my brother. that he provoked his anger to this point. Now he went to some mufti and he came back and said that the mufti says that the divorce is because of kids and they are responsible for this deed. He asked everyone to say sorry to him and threatened them that anybody who tried to leave the home to meet mother ..he will shoot him or her. He says it was a joint planning of us and our mother for the divorce and he is clean as it is not his fault and no one is to blame him for anything now. Please provide me the answers from the questions: 

1. is the divorce our fault? no one forced him to say the words ..and he should understand that it is natural for kids to be sympathetic for their mother when she is being abused ..no one abused my father nor said any bad words to him to effect his respect.

2. He shows reference from Quran and Ahadess that women are fitna.. and quran gave him this right to beat his wife..who are we to say that he did wrong.the mufti he went to said that..it was good if you were beating your wife and abusing her..atleast it was better then divorcing her and doing this act.....Is his whole behaviour justified with Quran and Hadees.

3. Now he is keeping the kids with him by force and threat them ..and lectures them daily that the divorce is because of them ..and he says no one will go and meet their mother other wise he will shoot them....Is this ok to keep kids by force and torturing them mentally all the time about not letting them see their mother again?

4.He don't listen to anyone and i have never seen him take a blame for anything in his life or never heard him say sorry..how to make him understand?

5. He said more then hundred times in all that i ll divorce your mother as a threat every time he saw that we got close to our mother or tried to protect her ..cant the kids love their mother or speak up for her within limits?..We always maintained our limits and never abused or said bad words to our father...he says that we will all go to hell. He don't let my brother to go and take care of my mother now as he has divorced her.

Please provide me detailed answers ..we need guidance..and we are tired of taking the blame to be responsible for braking our home.

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Getting involved with a non-Muslim

Q: I am Muslim of age 27 from north India. Hope you will understand my problem and give me the solution according to the law of Allah subhana watala so that Allah will forgive me and show me the right path to follow. May Allah forgiveness my sins and accept my tawbah.

Dear mufti sahib , I committed that sin which is highly punishable in Islam. I want to know what I have to do now so that Allaw Ta'ala will forgive me and accept my Tawbah. I want to tell you my present situation and I wish the solution from you according to the law of Allah Ta'ala. During my higher studies, me and my female batch mate became close to each other. She is a non-Muslim girl from south India.  I used to teach her every time about Islam , Quran, hadees and namaz etc  and she started to believe in Allah and his messenger. I told her to become a Muslim, she replied, pray for me and let Allah show me the true way of life. She told to me about her commitment to a non Muslim person for marriage, but she was not happy by that relation. Mean while she became close to me and I also, then we deviated from our paths and committed the sin. 

I told her we should seek forgiveness from Allah and go for marriage and we moved away from each other, so that we should not commit the mistake any more. In a real way I was not wishing to marry her due to lot of reasons : 1) my family has to suffer a lot that 2) she had a severe medical problem  – she can lose her eye vision any time , if she will give birth to a baby that time there are 100 percent chances to lose her eye vision and the baby will be with the same disease as her mother. 3) she is more aged than me and not much beautiful. I was knowing my family will not accept her. But I had committed the mistake and wish Allah should forgive us  , so I got ready to marry her at any cost. I told to my parents about her, and my father became very happy that we will be able to make her as muslim , so they agreed. But my mother told we are sacrificing our happiness for you. what ever  they agreed that was most important for me. When I told the girl, that my parents agreed for our marriage , she became very happy and told I will also talk to my parents. Her parents didn’t agreed at all , they told her you have to become muslim for that and what about the first person you have committed before , as he is waiting for you from so long and so many other things .

I was very tense all the time about my mistake and I performed tawbah so many times infront of Allah and I know Allah will forgive us, he will forgive us. I left everything and used to cry all the time for the forgiveness. And I prayed to Allah to do what is good for me. After  a month , She told me go ahead with some other girl , as she is not able to decide anything to whom she will choose , that non muslim person or me . We discussed the whole issue with the person also, he also told it is upto her to decide now. But she couldn’t decide anything as she is telling the person is still loving her and she is feeling guilty for her mistakes. I am not able to understand her, she is telling me, I dont know what to do.

I told her, what ever you do, but be as muslim and save your parents also from the fire of Allah. And from now onwards we will not contact each other at any cost and follow Rules of Allah to our maximum. But I myself am so afraid that if Allah will not forgive me what will happen
to me at the day of judgment , so we both decide to put this whole issue in front of you , so that you will tell us , what we need to do as per Islamic shariya?

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