Rights of servants

Living separately from one's parents

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2018-10-04 07:07

Q: I just got married last month and I also don't want to live with my parents because my father creates a miserable situation at home which is going to make an impact on my spouse, my future children and me.

My mother is suffering from this since her marriage and she feels lonely. I asked her to live with me but she said that I can't leave your father but my father does not understand things.

I live in a different city but I want to take care of them because they are alone. I have one elder brother but he is also not interested in living with them.

Before marriage I asked them to move to a city where we can live as neighbours and my mother said Yes it is okay. Now she emotionally blackmailed me and said that we will live with you in the same house so I had to say Yes. I want to take care of them but don't want to live with them in the same house. I said Yes to my mother.

Nowadays, I am with my parents and I am feeling that my parents do not respect my privacy with my wife. I am very very confused about what to do. What I am thinking is that I will ask my mother that if a miserable situation arises in my presence then I will move out and live somewhere else.

Swearing one's mother

Submitted by user2 on Thu, 2018-09-13 08:06

Q: I want to ask what should a person do if he uses an abusive word for his mother due to anger issues?

Parents asking their son to get rid of his cat

Submitted by user2 on Wed, 2018-09-12 08:16

Q: My family, especially my parents want me to get rid of my kitten that I bought but I am refusing. Can you please tell me if this is right or not. Am I committing a sin by not listening to my parents even though keeping a cat is not haraam. 

Respecting one's mother

Submitted by user2 on Sat, 2018-09-08 08:03

Q: I always have behaved badly with my mother. It is from my childhood. Now I know it is a grave sin but after doing tawba so many times I cannot change myself. I always have negative thoughts about her instead of her favours to me. I always think about the bad side about her and disrespect comes in my mind for her. I have tried but cannot get rid of it. I know she has many faults in her for which I disrespect her in my mind but this is a grave sin. How do I get rid of these thoughts and treat her with utmost respect?

Balance between ibaadah and social life

Submitted by user2 on Sat, 2018-09-08 07:53

Q: How do I balance between ibadah and everyday life? When my sisters come they complain that I don't give much time to them.. I also feel it difficult to go to someone else's home and fulfill my regular amal as it takes so much time..I also fear after marriage I will not be able to continue these aamaal as there will be so much responsibilities.. so what should I do?

Asking forgiveness from the person one had harmed

Submitted by user2 on Sat, 2018-09-08 06:55

Q: If a person tries to murder a person but the person doesn't die. The person who tried to murder him wants to repent. Does he have to ask for forgiveness from Allah only or should he also ask forgiveness from the person he tried to murder and if so, if the person only asked forgiveness from Allah but not the person he tried to murder, is it sufficient?

Helping one's parents move into a home that was bought on interest

Submitted by user2 on Mon, 2018-09-03 07:34

Q: I'm a 26 year old Hifz Student that studies in a Madressa. I would like to know if I can assist my parents and brothers in helping them move into a house that they bought on interest.

Alhamdulillah, I will not be living with them due to it being a house that was bought on interest, however they are asking me to help them and carry things into that house.

Can I help them? If I say no, they will be like what kind of son are you that can't help his own parents to move.

Treating one's children unjustly

Submitted by user2 on Mon, 2018-09-03 07:17

Q: I know a man in our neighbour who is married twice. He divorced his first wife and has a daughter from her who is living with him not with her mother. And from the second wife he has a daughter too. But he does clear injustice between his daughters in many ways.

On social media he always posts pictures of his daughter from his current wife and never mentions the elder daughter. I know that girl is hurt by the deeds of her own father. And instead of asking her father, people ask that girl why your father does not post pics or mention you, why does he not care about you? She is always bullied by the people. What do you say about that man and will the poor girl be rewarded in the Aakhirah due to her sabar? 

Ill treatment from one's sister

Submitted by user2 on Mon, 2018-07-30 08:14

Q: I am a lecturer. My sister couldn't qualify her studies. Her issue is anger. This makes her life difficult. She is unmarried and 37 years old. She considers me to be responsible for her studies and marriage. She didn't allow me to get married. She broke things and hit me and abuses me. My mother is old and she cries when this happens. What should I do?

Severing relations with one's mother for committing zina

Submitted by user2 on Mon, 2018-07-30 07:22

Q: My mother has slept with a man 3 years ago. She is now living with him while I am living with my father. Recently she has performed nikkah with the man saying that she has been divorced, but my father was unaware about this. \

1. Should I tell my father about this?

2. I dont want to contact my mother from now on so am I doing the right thing? By doing this will Allah be angry with me?

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