Q: My marriage proposal is going on and my family members selected one boy for me. My family likes this proposal as the boy is hafiz e quran and amil too. I m a Modern muslim girl,i wear hijab ,I follow farzs things about islam and some times I do not follow each and every sunnah. I do pray 4 times salaah (namaz). Many a times I miss fajar salaah also. I read quran but not daily. I fast whole ramadan month. but other then this I do not do taraaweeh namaz in the month of ramadan. My inner feelings says that i should not marry this boy as I am afraid to marry him as he is hafiz e quran and alim and he follows each and every sunnah. If I marry him I also have to obey everything what he says if I do not listen then I will commit a sin so I m very much afraid and said no to this proposal initially the other reason to say no to this proposal is he is not having pleasant personality but my parents are happy with this proposal. I don't know what to do. If I reject, I feel that I am disobeying Allah and my parents also and if I accept this proposal and marry him, after marrying if I don't accept him as my husband as he is not having a pleasant personality and each day if I regret and dislike him will also increase my sins. And if I do not listen each and everything what he says and follows about each sunnah then my sins will increase each and every second. I am very much afraid. Please do suggest me according to Islam. I do not want to commit any sin. In my view what I feel is if I reject him now its less sin and if I marry him for the sake of my parents then my whole life I will do one or the other sin and if incase any divorce then the big sin. Please do suggest me I am very much afraid. Suggest some good advice so that my heart gets relief.
A: If your parents and elders feel that he is a suitable candidate for you then trust in Allah Ta`ala and accept. May Allah put good into your decisions.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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