Premarital relationship

Submitted by user2 on Wed, 2018-02-21 07:21

Q: Meri umar 21 saal hai, ma 16 ki thi to meri ami ny mere rishty ki baat ki thi jis par mane mana kr diya k ma os larky sy shadi nahi karon gi lkn ami ny yeh keh kr ignore kr diya k or kis sy krni ha tumne. Lkn hum 4 behno k rishto ki baat chali thi jis par ami abu ma aikhtlaaf thy. Baat wohi chod kr meri family abroad aagai. 5 saal hum abroad rhy or 5 saal jab jab baat hoi mane ami sy apni razamandgi zahar nahi ki balky yehi kaha muje nahi krni, or ami muje daant deti thi.

2 saal pehle Facebook py muje aik larka psand agya or mane rah fraar k liye os sy dosti kr li. Or wo b qafi interested ho gaya jis waja sy mera interest b bar gaya. Oski nisbat b teh thi or meri b lkn meri trah wo b os larki ma interested nahi tha baqool os k. Humne sab teh kr liya k hum shadi ki pori koshish kren gy. Wo b abroad hota ha lkn different country ma. Osne aik 2 dfa apny ghar bat chalany ki koshish ki lkn mane mana kr diya ma chahti thi hum aik dfa mil len ta k bad ma msla na ho. Lkn jab ma Pakistan gai to mera nikah teh ho chuka tha or wo larka jisy ma psand krti hu wo abroad hi tha. Mere ghar k halat asy thy k ma dar gai thi or kabi kisi ko btaya hi nahi mane larky ko kaha wo Pakistan aye to ma bat karo gi lkn bohat der ho chuki thi or os k mutabiq os k any sy srf halat kharab honge ma b waqaf thi apni family sy nahi many gy bohat hangama hoga ma b chup kr gai.

Mane nikah rokna chaha apni ami ko bola k jab shadi hogi tab hi kr ly gy lkn wo kehti nahi tumhary Abu nahi many gy. Mere waldain aik sath 4 behno ka nikah kr k farag hona chahty thy. Mane chup chap nikah kr liya yeh soch k k yehi hona tha or itfaqan muje os din kuch mehsos b nahi howa, mere liye aisa tha k aaj k din ki yehi requirement hai k ma nikah pharo or ma apny waldain ki nrazgi sy itna darti hu k mana krny ka swal hi nahi tha mere zehn ma. Or jis larky sy howa wo bura nahi is liye ma mutmaen thi. Lkn nikah k din sy aj 2 months ho gaye ma osy dil sy as my husband qabol nahi kr pa rahi. Wo mujse 2 saal chota b ha or rishty ma mere chacha zaad bhai ka beta. Umar or rishta dono ma muje sy chota hony ki waja sy mere liye yeh bat bohat mushkal ha k ab ma osky nikah ma ho. Dosra ma nikah k 1 week bad wapas abroad aa gai thi or waqt k sath sath muje ehsas ho raha k muje nikah nahi krna chahiye tha qk ma abhi b dosry larky k bhary ma hi sochti hu. Ma nahi bhol pa ri bohat mushkal ma ho college jati hu lkn study ki tarf tuwaja nahi kr pa rahi har waqt aik hi soch ma ho. Os larky ki b shaid shadi ho jaye next year yeh bat brdsht krna mushkal ho rahi. Ma hud sy tang aa chuki hu, osy bholny ki koshish kro to jis sy nikah howa wo yad aa jata to phir wapas apni psand ko sochny lagti hu. Meri zindgi jasy ruk gai ha. Ab muje fikar hony lagi kahi muj par koi jadu to nahi ho gaya. Please meri madad kry.