Q: I am 47 years old and married for 19 years. This is my third marriage (I am the only wife). I was married twice in my twenty's and got fasagh for both (valid reasons). The problem is at that stage of my life I had no guidance from anyone. I have a father and a brother but they never explained to me right and wrong, the only Islamic thing my father spoke to me about was to wear a scarf and I thought that makes you a Muslim. My mother is a revert and my father and brother also never guided her. I never made ibadah, never knew much about the deen as my father also didn't live and practise deen. Now I am coming back to my actual dilemma. Alhamdulillah I have transformed tremendously since I married my current husband of 19 years and he has been my guide my anchor. I am really living and fulfilling my Deen. There was a topic the other day about iddah and the explanation about the punishment of not observing idaah properly. Therefore I need advise. For both marriages I never observed iddah because of ignorance, no one explained it and maybe they did and I didn't understand. I now want to make things right but I need guidance. Please give me advise on this matter.
