Taking a second wife secretly
Q: Is it permissible for a man to take another wife secretly without knowing of his wife.
Nikaah & Marriage Issues
Singing and dancing on the occasion of nikaah
Q: In 2-3 months I'm getting married. We are Pakistanis so in our culture before the wedding day we do an event called Dholki where people get together and sing and dance. I'm trying to avoid doing haram things.
Is it possible to use drums at the event? Is it only duff that is permissible? The event will be a female only event. Can we dance? At the nikaah event can we use music with only vocals and drums?
Making statements like "I will challenge Allah Ta'ala"
Q: I would like to bring a matter under consideration regarding my husband, as he said that "he will challenge Allah".
It all happened when I told him that I want to take separation from him and I mentioned that Allah has given me this right, to which he said no I can't and first he said I can bring any Ulamas I want he will send them all flying, they cannot interfere, I will challenge them all, to which I said okay no problem but Allah has given me this right. It's almost 10 years you can't look after me so I will go away myself and then he said "I will challenge Allah ". Listening to this I told him are you gone nuts what are you talking, you can't talk like this. He stood firm on his statement and after that I kept myself quiet, before he says something more bad.
Just to mention, he was in his full senses, wasn't angry when the topic started. I keep Ulamas away as he has no respect, but please I want to know what to be done with this statement.
Also his ibadaat is personal, I don't want to bring that in the picture, but want to mention he used to read fajar at the time of sunrise, which always caused a spark between us. He never use to listen. Now he no more reads, even on big nights and on Shabe Barah he told my son Asar time that books are already closed we don't need to make ibadat. I was completely shocked and explained to my son that we have to make ibadah till fajar. So I'm not sure what is his say in religious matters.
Please I want to know what is the way forward with it.
Married woman marrying another man
Q: I'm a revert Muslim and need an answer to my question.
If a couple made nikaah and after a year whilst being in nikaah the wife gets married in civil marriage to another man and holds the man's surname, does the nikah still have value, but she did this without her husband's consent?
Nikaah of children whose parents were involved in a haraam relationship together
Q: If a man and a woman had sexual contact with each other, if their children want to marry each other in future, can they get married?
Stopping one's son from having a girlfriend
Q: My son is 23 and living by me. I told him he can't have a girlfriend and he must get married. If not, he must move out if he wants a girlfriend. Am I wrong to do so?
Ownership of items that a husband purchased for his wife to use
Q: A man buys items for the wife to use, example, Wonder bags etc. Who does the items belongs to? To the wife or husband?
Mahrams in a foster family after nikaah
Q:
1. A woman has a foster family. Are her husband and children Mahaarim to the foster mother, etc.?
2. I've heard that if a woman takes lactation supplements and breastfeeds a child, that child will not be said as the woman's husband's foster child, will the child be Mahram to the woman's children and parents?
Making taubah after committing zina publicly
Q: What is the ruling on a person who seeks forgiveness from Allah after committing zina publicly? Will their repentance be accepted by Allah, and will they still be subjected to the Shari’ah punishment despite repenting?
Assisting one's daughter in matters pertaining to nikaah
Q: My daughter wants to get married to someone and she already has feelings for the boy.
1. Can we as parents make Istikhara for her as we feel the boy is not compatible for her.
2. If we do feel he is not compatible for her, what can we read for Allah Ta'alah to guide her and forget about this boy.