Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q:

1. If a guy proposed for a girl, will it be consider as nikaah?
2. If a girl is proposed for by a guy then what should the girl say to him (as per islamic opinion)?

Q: I want to ask a question and want fatwa. I am a psychiatric patient suffering from serious mental illness under treatment of a qualified doctor. The disease can be controlled but can't be finished. Also I had a blood disease thalesimia minor, which if my wife/partner also has (which is not tested yet), can cause to give birth to a baby with serious blood disease. I knew that before marriage and my physician told me that where you want to get married to take blood tests of the girl you want to get married to. We did not tell and hide where I was engaged my serious mental illness and blood disease which is minor. Now my wife and her family knows my mental disease because of my behaviour and medicines which I use not blood disease and she has give me a chance of few months to improve my self. If she see improvements she will decide to continue marriage with me or not. I am trying to improve my self. Is Nikaah Halaal and as we hid my mental and blood disease from my wife and her mother before marriage?

Q: I am a 48 year old married woman. My husband is 52 years old. With regards to marital intimacy, my husband is extremely lacking. What are my
rights as a Muslim wife? I have needs and am very unhappy.

Q: My husband hasn't touched me in months. He is impotent for years now. I think he should at least find other ways to be intimate. What are my rights?

Q: During a fight a husband slapped his wife on the face, then behaved as if everything is normal. Is she sinning if she refuses to have intimate relationship with him after that?

Q: My wife and I have not had a sexual relations for the past 13 months. Our reasons are many..

1. We could not do the act properly due to her weight or at least I felt so.
2. I met with a major accident in early last year and was disturbed for sometime, however there was no physical problem with me.
3. I was travelling on work and we were living separately off and on for duration of upto a month or a little more.

I was listening to the tarjuma of the Quran and came to know about the verse regarding ila. I did not know about this verse earlier and the time limit of 4 months mentioned in this verse. Though I have never told her that I will not have physical relations with her with the intention of ila, however I might have told her the same "I don't want to do it until you lose weight" when we would have had arguments. I did not know about ila, else I would have never uttered such words even in arguments. We have had our differences but we are trying to sort them out. In view of the above circumstances is our talaq confirmed as it has passed the 4 month period of ila? I do not want to separate and I have not told her regarding this yet. I am very disturbed.

Q: I want to make nikaah with a lady Inshallah and she has a 11 year old daughter, is it ok for me to marry her and her daughter to stay with us as well?

Q: Zina and alcohol which is the most biggest gunnah?

Q: My husband gives me R500 monthly allowance and his mother R1000 monthly allowance, is that fair?