Dress & Attire

Obedience to Allah Ta'ala supersedes obedience to others

Q: This has been eating me up slowly. I am a muslim lady 16 years old and I understand the Islamic injunction on modesty. I have read everything and I sincerely agree to it and I am not being forced to dress as I dress but currently my country has some education problem so my dad has made me go study abroad so I may finish my studies early and get married and also be able to help my religion in any way I can. Anyway the problem is that this country although a Muslim country has barely enough clothes and unfortunately I didn't bring past four pieces of clothes. Now I am forced to wear tight jeans trousers and small headscarfs. Although it doesn't seem like a problem but I am aware of the heads that turn when I pass not for anything because even in my country I also observed that but now it's worse and I think it's because of my dressing. Nevertheless I understand that it is a university and I should be used to that but I am afraid of the punishment of Allah (S.W.T) and sincerely who wouldn't want to enter the paradise in fact the prophet knowing my name still gives me great joy but how can I achieve that if I dress and my whole body is exposed and heads turn when I pass. Please help me. Would Allah forgive me? Would He punish me? Please I don't know when my time would come so I believe I have very little time. I really need answers because no religious man would look at me with such clothes on. please ask Allah for forgiveness on my behalf.

Using soaps, creams with alcohol

Q:

  1. Alcohol is used in most creams, soaps and perfumes. Are we allowed to use them? What is the ruling regarding the use if ethnol and synthetic ethnol?
  2. Can we then wear perfume to the mosque? Once sprayed the alcohol vanishes.
  3. In Hadith it says khamr that is made out of grapes and dates is haram. What about barley?

Buying a turban from a Sikh website

Q: I wanted to buy a turban from this website gosikh.com. Very nice quality, is it ok? The ones we get here are very poor quality and loose there colour after one wash. These are proper material. I also wanted to know the Sunnah length in metres or hand spans.

I really want to thank you for answering my questions. I'm in a dilemma at this point. I want to go study Insha Allah to Pakistan. My brother is already there. I am 23 years old and the thing is that should I get married before I go or not? Background details being that I will take entry into the second year Insha Allah of the 8 year program. The girl has been found they have spoken to the family. My sister tells me the girl is willing to get married and come with me to Pakistan and study in this Madrasah called Aisha Siddiqa for 3 years just Arabic while I study. I feel uneasy. The thing is Allah guided me and I made a promise to him in a bad state while I was not practising Deen that I would change my life. I started growing my beard Allhumdulilah, it's been 3 years. I found so much peace and the one thing I have promised my self is that I Insha Allah will do Alim course for the sake of Allah. I feel that it is incumbent on me after Allah guided me that this be done. I feel getting married won't let me study to my potential. The thing about this girl is that we met in day of Jahiliya and I completely stopped talking to her she changed her life she wears Niqaab and stuff. My sister is her friend. I went thorough my parents this time around because they knew about us before I started practising so they kind of pushed it that's why she is there. Another option I see in my mind is if I do get married she comes to Pakistan 2 years after. I been doing istikhara. I am so lost and don't see anything. I just want to study properly and not just waste my time there. It will also be hard to go one year jamat. Please advise. I am getting very stressed.