Q: I have received money from family for my children who are still minors. Can I use this money that was given specifically in their names to buy nappies, clothes and other items for their use?
Q: I am a divorced woman and had a painful life with my ex for 28 years. I did not fight or argue with him because of his bad manners and the disrespectful words that he used all the time. He abused me mentally and emotionally until the divorce took place. He had passed away couple of years ago. I have all the bad memories with him, however my children are asking me to go to his grave to say that I have forgiven him and that I am free of all the pain and emotions that were because of him. They say that it will heal me and make me happy. I have verbally forgotton him in my duas many times but in my heart the pain is there. What should I do to clean my heart from him? I am thinking that why should I have to visit his grave while I was divorced and had no contact with him for a long time and still asking Allah Almighty to clean my heart. Your advice according to shariah will be appriciated for visiting his grave and saying those words.
Q: I have been staying separately from my husband for a year now. We have not initiated any divorce proceedings but we have had various issues which led to us living separately. We are both currently living with our parents. Amongst the issues we have had included family issues, trust issues, and Sunni and Deobandi clashes. I am a Sunni Barelvi Razvi mureed and my husband says that he is just a Muslim. However he is known to associate with friends and Ulema having Deobandi inclination. We have not had any physical form of contact in this year, I am not sure if we had to divorce whether I would be required to observe the normal Iddah period or not. Also, recently I have been feeling lustful and spoke to him about it, however I am not sure if I long to be physical with him or that I am just feeling lustful. I know its not wrong for me to have discussed these feelings with him as he is still my husband. Would it be wrong if we both met to satisfy our lustful desires, I think that since we are not divorced we are stil halaal for each other.
Q: If someone's sister is married, and after marriage she is living in her mothers home due to instability with her in-laws and husband. Now her elder brother and his wife (who dislikes the sister) are pushing the sister to go back to her in-laws (husbands) home, but she is refusing to go back and says that when her husband will come back she will go (her husband is living in another country). But now her elder brothers wife has gone to her parents home and is demending a divorce (the elder brother got married 3 years ago and has no children). Please expain us what to do as per islamic laws.
Q: Kindly advise what tasbih or Quranic surah or verse should I read for my husband to have interest in me. He is an extremely reserved person and gets angry frequently. We are not living together at present due to visa problems. He never shares anything of his life with me, although he calls me daily on the phone and on skype too. I am very depressed and want to have a good married life with him.
Q: Is it haraam for a husband to touch his wife between the navel and the knee while she is menstruating? My husband says its not haraam to touch, is that correct?
Q: Alhamdulillah we have ladies weekly talim in our area. The talim has been going on for approximately 15 years. Up until recent years there was no particular speaker who did the six points, some of the ladies took turns to do the six points. A few years ago a female who often goes out in jamaat moved into the area and she now does the six points every week. When I had talim at my home recently I called an Apa (the Apa is an Aalima) who conducts the talim in her area to be the speaker for that week. The lady who usually conducts our talim looked a little upset. Sometime before another resident wanted to call a prominent Apa to be the guest speaker however the lady who does our talim said that not just anybody may speak. I would like to call another Apa who conducts talim in various areas to be the guest speaker at my home. I do not want to offend our lady. Is her behaviour correct? What are the rules regarding who may do the six points?
Q: I am probably in the state of istihaazah but I am bleeding everyday continously for the past 2 months. With Ramadaan coming up I have many questions. Some days my flow is much heavier and some days its just a little, how does this affect my fasts? Please clarify the rules for salaah and reading Quraan as well?
