Nikaah & Marriage Issues

A girl claims that I am responsible for her failed marriage

Submitted by admin on Sun, 2013-05-05 11:27

Q: A girl claims that I am responsible for her failed marriage and accuses me of concealing from her the truth about her in law's and husband's evil character and habits. Prior to her marriage, when asked my opinion about the family, I told her family that from my interactions with the boy and his family and from what I had heard about them, I was never given a reason to believe that they were anything but good people. They then proceeded to do their own private investigations. The girl says that I should repent and will be questioned about my actions on the Day of Reckoning. Can you please also comment on whether a boy is destined to have an unhappy marriage if his parents were separated (but have since reunited) and if his grandfather made nikah with a second wife?

Husband forcing the wife to stay with in-laws in India while he works in Dubai

Submitted by admin on Sun, 2013-05-05 11:08

Q: I got married to my husband 3 1/2 years back. On the day of my Walima I told my husband to take me to his village where he has his house and all his family members are staying. My husband had divorced his first wife hence he said he cannot take me as nobody will be happy and I cannot face my family members because recently I had divorced. Since then I refused to stay with my in laws because it hurt my feelings and I also had to face many questions from my own family as to why my husband is not taking me to his village. I settled with him in Dubai and in order to financially help my husband I started working because he could not afford to keep me with him in Dubai. After 1 1/2 year of our marriage I delivered a bay girl. Since she was too small I had to bring my mother with me. I never forced my husband to pay the expenses either for my daughter or my mother. Since myself and my mother both took care of my daughter my husband started to avoid his responsibilities. He is very fond of playing cricket and whole nights on weekends he plays cricket. His friends and relatives in Dubai are bachelors and I do not allow them to enter our house. He gets frustrated and starts fighting with me. Am I wrong on this? Things became wors during the past one year and I left my home with my mother and daughter to my home country India. Even after that my husband use to fight with me and stopped talking to me for 15 days. After waiting for 15 days I came back to Dubai and found that my house is all messed up as his friends and relatives were staying with him. He Slapped me and asked me why did I came. When I checked his laptop there were all nude photographs and dirty video clippings. We had big arguments and he threatened me with divorce and his family is supporting him in all this. In order to manage things I asked him to forgive me for all the arguments. He always says that he cannot afford to keep me with him and he wants me to go to his village and stay with his family and he shall stay in Dubai. In all this situation as per Shariah can I tell my husband that I cannot stay with his family. I really care for him and want him to leave all the bad companions and fulfill his responsibility. I always want to stay with him but the price that I will have pay to stay with him is work and share his responsibility and put my baby into babysitting because he doesn’t want my mother to stay with us. As per Shariah do I have the right not to stay with my in laws in such situation?

Incorrect faskh of nikaah and nikaah without witnesses

Submitted by admin on Sat, 2013-05-04 15:42

Q: I am in a dilemma. My parents used to have problems. In 2009 my mums dad passed away so my mum went for the burial and thereafter decided to stay at her own mums house. Since then she hasn't met my dad. She wanted a divorce which my dad isn't ready to give, so she applied for khula. Our community is helping in this but they are very slow. She works at her dad's shop, so another man has liked her. Because our community is very slow, this man went to the qadhi and made him sign the divorce papers and the qadhi even performed their nikah but my dad doesn't know about this and there was no wali at the time of nikah. Both my mum and that man sit and talk. Please explain if this is halaal or not? 

My husband kidnapped me and married me

Submitted by admin on Wed, 2013-05-01 07:27

Q: I am fully confused about my life. I am married and my husband kidnaped me and married me, so I don't like him and I have one son also. I don't want to stay anymore with him. I am suffering a lot now. No more I want to suffer, so according to Islam what can I do? I have decided to divorce him and marry another guy because I am not happy. I want to be happy in my life so what should I do? Please help me.

Acting responsibly in a marital relationship

Submitted by admin on Tue, 2013-04-23 09:01

Q: I am really concerned. I need advice before leave without telling my husband. We have had an argument last night about leaving the kids by his ex-mother in law which he considers family. Is she family to him? He does not consider my mum family. His ex-mother in law barely practices Islam. On another occasion we had an argument. He said to me he can see I grew up wild, he insulted me I don't know what a women is like and he says if there is no respect there nothing. He slept in the lounge and today we are not talking so what should I do? I was planing on leaving because he said there is nothing.

Father in-law taking away the mahr

Submitted by admin on Tue, 2013-04-23 08:45

Q: I am asking this question on behalf of my sister. She got married from two years now and alhamdulillah she is blessed with a girl baby. The problem is she was given 110 ounce of gold as maher. Her father in law is a bad person who has even tried to break their relationship for his personal intrest. In fact he has ego problem. Now he is holding the maher and says its given from my earnings not his sons. My brother in law is now trying to move from house but his father is not helping him financially though he is rich. Kindly let me know what is the status of maher in this situation. 

Beghair nikaah mard owr auwrat saat rehna

Submitted by admin on Mon, 2013-04-22 16:23

Q: Mera sawal ya hay k meri mangni meray mamo k gher hoe hay aur os ko 6 saal hogae haan. In 6 saloo mein hum mein piyar o muhabbat k ehad or waday b hovay quran per b aik dosaray nay waday kia aaj say takreeban 2 saal phelay hum dono nay aik dosaray k samany hijab e qabool kiya nikah ke terhan aik dosaray ko qabool kia aur phone per b jab k os k waldain b hamari shadi per razamand thay meri job na lagnay ke waja say hamari shadi her saal delay hojati thee aur ab hum say mazeed aik dosary say dur nahe raha jata tha to humnay sab k samnay nikah say phelay is terhan kia aur is baat ka meri or os ke walda ko b pata hay aur is duran hum dono mein kae baar jismani taluqat b qaim ho chukay haan kyoun k hum dono aik dosaray ko mian biwi samhajtay haan to kaya hamara nikah hogaya hay please mujhay is ka jawab day dain mein boht parshan hoon kyoun k ab on logo ka behaviour hum say boht ghalat hogaya hay aur meri i dont know biwi ya mangatar b meray gher walo or mujhay bura bhala kehte hay per mein phir b her haal mein os ko apnana chahta hoon kyoun k mein apnay kiya hovay wado ke wada khilafi nahe kerna chata os ko apni izzat banaya hay or bana k rakhna chahta hoon mein nahe chahta k os ke izzat kharab ho apni hamakto ke waja say please mujhay is ka jawab dain mein boht boht ziyada parshan hoon.

Having relations with one's wife on the following nights

Submitted by admin on Mon, 2013-04-22 15:29

Q: I recently have received the information below, and I wanted to enquire about its authenticity. 

The author of IHYA states:- It is Makrooh to indulge in sex during three nights of each month; the first, the last and fifteenth. It is said that Shaitaan is on the prowl on these nights. The undesirability of sex on these nights is narrated from Hazrat Ali, Hazrat Mulawiya and Hazrat Abu Huraiah (Radiyallahu-Anhum). 

The author of RIFAATUL-MUSLIMEEN states that in addition to the above; Wednesday nights and the nights of the two Eids must also be avoided. Also the night where after a person intends to go on a journey on the next day should be avoided. Intercourse on these nights may have an undesirable effect on the off-spring.

It is reported in TIBBE-NABAWI that  Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) advised Hazrat Ali (Radiyallahu-Anhum) not to cohabit on the fifteenth night as the shayateen appear in large number on this night. 

In a footnote of SHAMAIL-TIRMIZI it is stated that if the child is conceived during salah times (When the salah is neglected), the result will be a disobedient child.

Custody of children

Submitted by admin on Mon, 2013-04-22 08:05

Q: I wish to know as to whether a father who is entitle to custody in terms of Islamic Law of his children girls ages 15 and 13 respectively can make a following condition as his wife who wants to divorce him and refuses to give him custody of the children. The condition being that should she remarry the custody of the children shall revert to him?

Three talaaqs after an argument

Submitted by admin on Mon, 2013-04-22 07:59

Q: My Name is Naveed Abbas Rana, My Story is Very Long but I will ask only to the point , I married my cousin in 2004 but after marriage she was not staying and living most of time at her mothers home and saying that she don't want to live with me. She behave like she want that I will divorce her but I want to live with her but she never stays and forces me to go abroad and earn money there. I came abroad and after a year when I settled here I sent a visa for her to come and stay with me but she totally refused to come. I tried every thing what was in my hand after she filed a case for "Haq Mehar" and Expenses "Kharcha" and lied in Court that I became careless and a drinker (Nowazbila). I never drank (sharab) in my life. Then she asked me to divorce her. I told her that she didn't do good with me and I don't want my parents to suffer more because of her going in Court. I agreed but I told her to first write to my father that she won't claim anything. She agreed and I gave her divorce on phone, one time all three divorces on the end of September, date was more than 20 September 2007. Then she changed her case in court and in  case she ask for Expenses and Haq MAHER and show that she is not divorced but Court go through the case and Mid of January,2008 the Court Give her "Khula" and now she got baby on 27th June,2008

My Questions are: 

Is her Marriage is valid if she did in September? What about "Iddat"? Days she have to wait after Divorce? Will they be applicable or not?

One Time Say Talaq three Time is one Time Or Three Time Talaq what is punishment if its proven that they did that act before marriage when she was under my Nikah and Last What i have to Do in This All quite and leave on ALLAH or Act and Bring Out The Truth 

Yes One Thing I Didnt Tell before that her father (My Mamoon) died because of her behaviour and she didn’t care, and her mother occupy our Home which was purchased by my mother but I allow them to live there after my Nikah.

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