Nikaah & Marriage Issues

Q: Is it permissible for my husband to allow any family members to come into my home when we are away from the house?

Q: Girl's choice in marriage is final though violating other family and status equality as given in fiqh of marriage. Allah orders children not to cause grievous hurt to the heart of parents. Allah says, he does not delay punishment to such children in this very world. So how can such marriages be happy? Is not the marriage with the approval of both the girl and her parents more meritorious and rewarding? And are parents entitled to say to the girl that if she's bent upon her own choice, she should do it without parents taking any part in it as they aren't accepting her choice?

Q: Can someone have a gap of a year or so between their nikaah and their rukhsati?

Q: Is it necessary to have a source of income to get married? If yes, then what if one does not earn and is involved in adultery of eyes, hands, ears,etc.? Should he marry or first earn and then give proposal for marriage as is the tradition in India?

Q: I am an unmarried young lady. I wish to pursue a marriage with someone, a Muslim man. However he is unable to offer me anything including religion. However his home language is Arabic. Instead he offers me his love and his life.

Q: I know a Muslim female who married a non-Muslim and now she has a 15 years old son. Now she wants to marry a Muslim. What about the son? If she wants him to be a Muslim and he does not accept then, what's the ruling in Islam. Also is it permissible to marry a woman who can't give birth to a child? If she did not marry a Muslim, there is a great danger to her Imaan. Can I marry her even if she is 15 years older than me? Please guide me in this regard.

Q: My question is my sister who is in love with her khala's son but the problem in their marriage is that once she was crying in childhood so her khala made her drink milk from her own, so we consulted many Maulanas. They rejected their marriage. So we then approached to Jamie (bhatkal) they suggested it is possible in the Shaafi'ee mazhab but not in the Hanafi Mazhab and we belong to the Hanafi Mazhab and the main problem is they are madly in love. Please suggest me solution as early as possible.

Q:

1. How many farz, wajibaat and sunnat are there in nikah?

2. Which month, day is better for marriage according to Islam?

3. Is there any dua to get a pious, kind, helpful, caring, loving and best mannered girl in nikah?

4. Please inform me about some books regarding nikaah in Islam.

Q: I have a Muslim friend. She living in a non-Muslim country and married to a man who follows no religion. She doesn't know about Islam much. In that country rule they are husband and wife. How she can marry a Muslim now? Even though she is not in relationship with her husband for a long time. Please guide me in this regard. Is she in need of a divorce from that man or not?

Q: My husband is diabatic and is on strong medicians which has side effects. One of the side effects is he can't always have sex, so to fulfill my needs he uses his mouth to satisfy me. He dosen't place his mouth inside me but at the outkirts of my vagina. My problem is I feel very guilty because its against the sunnah, although my husband tells me it is not haraam and he can not perform sex like a healthy person. Sometime he uses his fingers but that can be painful.