Talaaq

Q: I have a question about an event that took part almost two months ago but the question came in my mind this week. About two months ago, my wife and I got in a very heated argument and I got extremely mad. Due to my anger, I wanted to emotionally upset her so I told her that I am thinking of divorce (honestly speaking, the thought or idea of divorce did come up, but I didn't want to do it - I only mentioned it to her so I could emotionally upset her). So, she started crying. Then, I told her that if I write it on my arm, then it will take place. Then, I wrote "Thinking of divorce" on my right arm and since she was crying (and couldn't see), I told her, "Well, I wrote it..." (I did write the word divorce, but the complete phrase was 'Thinking of Divorce' and she couldn't see the full phrase. The only reason I did this was, again, to emotionally upset her). Then, after maybe two minutes, she read the phrase and said "What does this mean?" I told her that I only wrote "Thinking of divorce" so I could threaten her and upset her. Then, after about a few hours when we calmed down, we both apologised and we both moved on. However, the question came to my mind did this actually count as a divorce at all or not? I asked my wife and she thinks that maybe this counted as the first divorce that was revoked. I, on the other hand, due to my intention to not divorce her at all, do not think this was actually a divorce. Moreover, she was near her menses and we had relations before that, so I knew I would have to wait until after her menses to actually divorce her (but again, I never intended on doing that). So does this count as a divorce?

Q: My sister has been in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship for the past 7 years. Her husband recently asked her to leave and wants nothing to do with her. She left with her 3 children. Now he refuses to give her talaq out of spite and wanting to maintain control of her. Does the fact that he asked her to leave constitute a valid talaaq?

Q: If your Husband sent a message to your parents saying come fetch your daughter and her things and in another part of the message he said to your family that they broke a marriage up. Does a divorce fall?

Q: My husband in an extreme anger pronounced three words talaq, talaq, talaq on the phone. When he cooled down he returned home he behaved normal and didn't even know what words he uttered. He was reminded by people who was surrounded by him at that time. But he didn't know. He said I don't know what I said and what I did. My question is that in that case if a man becomes insane and he doesn't know what is he doing, is divorce valid or not?